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baby shower drama

So my sis lives in az and I live in ca. I have a csection scheduled for the 16th and it has been the plan for her to come out around the 12th. My aunt and my sis aren't on speaking terms. My mom, my aunt, and my grandma surprised me with a baby shower on the 6th. To my complete surprise and disbelief, my sis showed up to the shower!! Best surprise of my life my sis and I are so close. My aunt ended up leaving and I barely noticed during all the commotion. I text her after to let her know I wished she would have stayed and that I was sorry about how it all played out. Today I found out that my aunt planned most of the shower she didn't even attend.

I refuse to get in the middle of their issue and thankfully neither of them has put me in an awkward position, aside from the shower. My aunt claims she isn't mad at me but I still feel so bad. How can I show her how much I appreciate it and how sorry I am that someone (I didn't know but my mom did) didn't tell her my sis was coming?

I would rather not hear opinions about who should have done what, or who was wrong for doing whatever. I just would like some suggestions on how to thank my aunt for everything she's done for me and the baby. tia
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I'd have a girls day with just you and her. Take her out to lunch and a manicure/pedicure. Those are always nice. Or if you know of something that she really wants wants buy it for her.
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Go to "things remembered" and buy her a picture frame and have something very special written on it. That's what we did for hubby's grandma. And when I find the right frame we are getting his mom one that says "Our Grandchildren"
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I like the ideas the other a have said. My only idea would maybe be some kind of spa day  or something similar? Meal out?
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I think she's being rude.  You can't help who came to the party and if you did why at the moment would you cause drama at your party and force someone to leave.  You didn't make her leave, she left on her own. I don't think you need to do anything special for someone who's trying to stress you out. As far as I'm concerned you don't even need to explain yourself.  I'd just give it time and let her come around. You did all you could letting her know you didn't know she was going to be there.  That's all you can do. Gong out and spending extra money you may not have on someone who's so quick to jump the gun,  she may cause even more drama when you try and take her out.  Just be careful with whatever you decide.  Sorry you have to be so stressed.  Good luck! ♡ :)
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Send her a thank you basket with a card to tell her how thankful you are for her kindness. It dont have to be expensive but be thoughtful.
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I would do a girls day with just her. Take her to lunch and tell her again how much you appreciate her. I think some one on one time will really show her how much you appreciate her. I hate that is going on between your sister and Aunt. Babies have away of changing people's hearts, so maybe when the baby is born they will both be over joyed and forgive each other. Good luck.
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Her leaving the baby shower that she mostly planned for you was sortve rude A.either she was just avoiding because she didn't want to have any drama at your shower or b. Maybe she just felt uncomfortable ..but either way she should've stayed and enjoyed it with you and just try to be civil ...don't feel bad its not your fault if anyone out of this situation should feel bad its your sister and aunt you can't change the actions of others...personally I wouldn't do anything for her it was her own decision to leave she made that chose not you ...
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I would obviously thank her for planning the shower but make it known that you kindve felt hurt that she didn't stay and enjoy it with you ..nothing wrong with expressing your feelings because obviously this is bugging you .. Good luck :)
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