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8827391 tn?1400247234

being alone????

I am 38 weeks tomorrow  an I think my dr going induce me on the 21st I am beyond excited but kinda sad that I going be alone during labor an delivery my family doesn't want to be there an I am a single mom any other ladies going thru the same thing??
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I know I've read other posts on here and other sites and women have said that when they had to give birth with no one there, most of the nurses and other staff pull together in a really neat way to give you the support you need. Most of the workers on the ward work there because they love the experience of helping someone bring a new life into the world. So I pray that they can come together for you and make your experience better than what you think it will be. I wish I could be there for all you ladies. Keeping you all in my prayers.
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10117941 tn?1421474268
I am so sorry I feel so guilty reading your post. I have all these ppl that want to be there when I give birth. My husband and I have made the decision of it just being us. I wish I could send you all my family to keep you company. Stay strong, your an amazing women, all of you are. You can probably ask the hospital if they have a doula program. Its a program who sends a lady to be there with you and help you through labor they are trained professionals. They specialize in keeping you calm and relax during the process. Good luck to you momma♡Best wishes♡stay strong♡
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9764007 tn?1405807828
I'm so sorry you ladies have to have your babies alone.. I wish you guys had a better support system in your lives family or friends.... But like you sad many woman did what you ladies will do alone.. What don't break you will make you stronger.. You guys got me wishing I could be there for you..  Can you guys hopefully find a distant cousin you haven't spoken to ina while.. maybe they can accompany you.. if not you have God.. and soon your babies.. And when that's all said an done you have us here on this app to share your wonderful stories to... Sorry about the foolish guys that will be missing out on a important time in your life and also their babies.. they will regret it.. stay strong as you are ladies..
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Don't worry hun you won't be the only one like I said I'm also doing it alone it is a bit scary but a lot of women have done it for yrs and alone also so I'm pretty sure us like strong women we are can handle it ;-)
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8827391 tn?1400247234
Thank you  ladies  good to not I not the only one
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arghhh..men hey :( i really hope it all goes okay for you..i hate thinking of someone else giving birth alone..us women are tough but it doesnt mean its not hard
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8827391 tn?1400247234
I not really  social  so I don't have  a close  friend  to ask or I would but I will be strong for my son an I don't even know if the dad wants to be there ain't heard from him  since june
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aww hunni..im in the same position..single mum too..im not sure if the dad wants to be there..but i feel very self conscious about it if he does..my mum called me a few days ago and said who did i want at the birth because she doesnt want to be there..kinda made me think stuff you then ill do this alone!im scared i will be upset and emotional..this is my second baby tho so i kinda know what to expect..is there a close friend you could ask?i do think that even though i had my daughter an hour after arriving at the hospital..the midwives were a great support..im hoping that will happen thus time too if i am alone..something about being a single parent gives you a strength that is special and keeps you going..that love for your child will get you through :)
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8827391 tn?1400247234
My family is the same my dad agreed to watch my other children witch is great because I really  wouldn't want him in there anyway but I don't understand why the rest of my family  acts like it would  put them out if there way or  something..... if it was my daughter I would try an be there for her the best I could at least u understand how it feels
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U don't have any friends nearby who can be there for u?  Maybe at the very least a trusted co-worker?  I'm sorry to hear that..  I hope ur able to have someone there for support. :(
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I do too. But my family is weird they don't want to be there or even help out with taking care of my son while I'm in labor so my husband could be with me at least during labor or something so I decided I will not tell one soul when the baby is born I will not postb it on Facebook. Nothing they don't deserve to know anything if they want to act that way.  They use Christmas as an excuse to not be there or help out with my son
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8827391 tn?1400247234
I don't  really  want  a crowd  but it would  be  nice to have one person there to support  me an maybe take my attention away from being in pain
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Hello I'm being induced on the 22nd and I'm also going to be alone for the labor and delivery all my family is going to be very busy and won't be there and I have a 2 yr old who I won't be able to leave with no one so my husband will have to take care of him :-/ so yup I'm almost on the same boat. Being alone :-/ but it doesn't affect me in rather that than having a crowd of people who don't even help and just sit therem
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