Use hot cloths over you'r breasts and sit out in the sun for a bit with you'r nipples out then try and relax and feed. You'r letdown will be painful but afterwards you should have emense relief
Mabe try a nipple shield when you pump
I had this problem milk came in wow boobs like rocks. . And as baby wasn't always latching nipper were sore to ended up with mastitis. . Pumped my way through it placing hot flannels over my boobs and bought lanolin for my nipper and also a large cabbage leaf inside my bra ... x
You will have to pump to relieve some of the engorgement in your breast, otherwise you will suffer from clogged milk ducts and mastitis.
I have nurse my first born for two years and I must admit after the third day of nursing I wanted to quit, it got better the second and third week of nursing then there were no pain or discomfort after that. Try to pump in between feedings and after and make sure to take some tylenol for the pain. See if a clean cool/warm wash cloth will help soothe your nipple pain.
The only way the hardness will go away is by getting the milk out and emptying your breasts. You can't skip 1 feeding without developing problems. Especially in the beginning. I had sore scabbed nipples and the lactation nurse gave me these water based pads to place on my nipples for about a week. It helped and i healed but i did keep pumping every 3 hours through the pain :/ when they got hard i massaged them as I pumped, especially the section thats hard. I also took ibuprofen for the pain when it was too much. I put ice packs for pain and took warm baths to try to help milk to come out. Good luck...
Keep trying it will get better..I was like that I start using lanolin I use to be like that n got that cream from walmart it helps alot.. good luck
Please use the pump and try to take it all out the symptoms you are detailing are from a mastitis beginning that is a terrible pain. I had it with my first born. My breast got really hard then red and i had terrible high fever 103-104 almost had to get surgery cause the only way to help urself is by taking it all out.