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Hey, im going to be a first time mom. Im 17 and 34 weeks as of today & im due january 6th. Im no longer with the father of my son. He decided to cheat and then tell me to get an abortion. He even tried to have his sister fight me so I would loose the baby. Well. He wants to be there when kaiden ( our son) is born so he can sign the birth certificate and then fught for custody . Im not sure what to do.
Thats when im due.. I hope everything works out for u sweety.. if he has threatened to hurt the baby im sure u can put a stop to him having custody of the child.. the breastfeeding plan sounds good.. And if u don't want him in the room when ur in labor let the hospital know.. good luck xxx
I agree with treksy get a restraining order and keep the log! here in ireland its upto you who is with you when the baby is born, also security in thd hospital is VERY strict if you inform the hospital he wont be aloud in. I hope everything works out for you! best of luck!
I dont know what you should do exactly with the laws and everything but take the advice above BREASTFEEED!! noone can take baby away from you at all if you are so try your hardest to do it and keep doing it until all court orders are in placem I know a lady who breastfed her son till he was 3 so he couldnt go to the father. Goodluck!!
Restraining order. Now! This will show any court that you were afraid of him.
He won't be able to come to the hospital. Also if you tell the nurses and staff that he's not allowed in they won't let him in.
Did that with my mouthy mother in law!
You need well documented instances where he did these thing. Start keeping a log of when
He did these things,what he did exactly. Don't exaggerate or put personal feeling in the log a judge will see you as immature if you can't keep arguing aside. As a teen mom you already face these kinds if judgements. So be as adult as possible even though it will be hard. An example would be: "date/time. Told me I was a druggie and a bad mom...even though he does drugs and his own mom....blah blah blah..." don't do that lol its tempting I know lol.
Also anybody who was present during these times is good to keep around.
I was 17 when I had my first. Prepare to be pushed and pulled in every direction because people don't think you can make decisions for yourself!
Ive been through this. Good luck <3
He won't be able to come to the hospital. Also if you tell the nurses and staff that he's not allowed in they won't let him in.
Did that with my mouthy mother in law!
You need well documented instances where he did these thing. Start keeping a log of when
He did these things,what he did exactly. Don't exaggerate or put personal feeling in the log a judge will see you as immature if you can't keep arguing aside. As a teen mom you already face these kinds if judgements. So be as adult as possible even though it will be hard. An example would be: "date/time. Told me I was a druggie and a bad mom...even though he does drugs and his own mom....blah blah blah..." don't do that lol its tempting I know lol.
Also anybody who was present during these times is good to keep around.
I was 17 when I had my first. Prepare to be pushed and pulled in every direction because people don't think you can make decisions for yourself!
Ive been through this. Good luck <3
Well, you obviously don't have to include him in the labor and delivery process but if he wants to sign the birth certificate, I don't think you can deny him that. (Regardless of what he said or did months ago. ) I think you're just going to have to dispute custody in court. I'm no expert, but this is what I assume.
But if you want a bit of advice, be sure to breastfeed. They can't take a breastfed baby away from his mother, but they may give the baby's father visitation.
But if you want a bit of advice, be sure to breastfeed. They can't take a breastfed baby away from his mother, but they may give the baby's father visitation.
Its your choice who is at the birth, not his! If he has threatened you with violence then i highly doubt that he will even be considered to have full custody. Most likely he has already got some kind of police record which will definately make it pretty impossible. In Australia (where I live) you have to put a name on the birth certificate regardless of him being there or not. This is to ensure you get child support payments from him, if you dont put his name down, he can argue that its not his and not pay anything. Im not sure if its the same where you live though. Good luck with it all, I hope you have some great support from your family xx
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