depressed about life right now....

[ericndomsmom]

When i found out i was pregnant with this baby i had a 3 month old baby and was in the middle of trying to get a different job because i hated the job i had. My new job hired me and i waited 2 weeks to tell them i was pregnant. They were fine with it. In fact they've been a stellar employer. They've been so understanding. Knowing i was pregnant i did weigh my options on moving jobs. New job means no medical leave for a year but i can still be off when i have baby just no time to take off for random sick days or doctor appointments. I like everything about my job other than its 3rd shift. I barely get any sleep between driving my older kids to and from school and my husband to and from work and baby to babysitter. I get a series pf 2-3 hour naps. I feel guilty if i need to nap once everyone is home in evening because thats my only family time. Im sick of not getting any quality time  with my family 5 days a week because all i feel like i do is work and sleep.  My old job was at least 1st shift but i hated everything else about it. It stressed me out so bad last pregnancy i think its why i had that baby a month early. Im glad i left my old job but im just stressed about working 3rd. I have  an 8 month old & baby coming and i feel like if i stay at this job i will miss their childhood.

[Ilovemy2bebes]

how is it that u do all the driving? Do u only have one vehicle for the family? You're burning yourself out. I can't imagine what you're going through but u do need your time too because it sounds like you'll reach a breaking point soon. I can kind of understand how u feel since my boyfriend does not help much with my 19-m-o and I'm pregnant with our second baby. Was stressed out from working full time n then being the sole caregiver n picking up/dropping off baby to the sitters n also paying her myself. I just got put on bedrest per my OB n perinatologist at 30 weeks. I hope u find some relief but u should not feel guilty about spending a little bit of that time for yourself. You need to take care of u too because u have another one on the way.

[ericndomsmom]

Yes we only have one car. My husband offered to get a 2nd full time job and let me quit but then he'd get burnt out. I can't let him do that. I feel like I'm almost at my breaking point.

[VesselofGod]

It sounds like you should let your husband step up and be the provider that he wants to be for you and the family you have created together!   You focus on being healthy and having a healthy baby and taking care of your other children! Being the Mom at home also cuts out the cost of child care,and no one is going to love and care for your children as much as you do! You will find other ways to save money while at home, and he might only need to work part time .

[ericndomsmom]

I don't feel like my husband should have to work 2 jobs while i work none. I would not feel right letting him.

[bentonms]

Dont feel guilty about being a stay at home mom.  It was hard for me too at first.  But my husband loves that he is the provider, hopefully yours will too.  Your work is the day care the mentoring and tutoring your children so they have a happy upbrining. Its amazing how it brings a family together when you have a stay at home parent. Family meals and quality time increases.  Believe me, it would be better for your health and your kids would live it.  It only needs to be that way till all the kids are old enough for school.  They you could easily get back to work. Keep your chin up whatever you decide.  I think my work stressed me out to and had my baby early. Medical bills for something that is preventable it hard on your family too.

[Lee86lee]

I understand your situation if you decided to allow him to work 2 jobs you just make it easy on him. Make his lunch and pack it with cute little notes, keep the house clean, schedule for kids and family time, you need time to rest. Its only temporary and u can go back to work afterwards if u like.

[BabyAbbott]

Maybe you could find a part time job while your husband gets a second job so it wouldn't be so hard for you.  Or could you work part time at your current job?  I commend you! Being a hard worker is tough but it teaches your children to work for things.  Just be sure to take care of yourself though...