feeling sad

[militarywifey]

I am a mother of a 3 an 4 year old.  We recently found out we are pregnant.  I was shocked to find out I am 15 weeks.  I always had abnormal periods and put aa lot of symptoms off to holiday and work stress.   My husband is military and gone a lot so all my a pts I am going to by myself with my kids. Its hard to entertain them and do what I need to do for the docter. He is going to be away the month of march and may and July  right around my due date July 22.  I am feeling overwhelmed and like I just can't do it all myself.  Honestly I am crying a lot and sad that's not like me at all.  I never got like this with my other kids and I had just as much pressure   has anyone felt similar if so any advice

[New Mommy 2 Be 2007]

I did after my son was born I got pregnant after my first period I honestly had an abortion and every girl on this site help me with the issue that was 5 years ago then I got pregnant again with my daughter it was hard but I pull thru and still do, I now had my mirena removed and am ttc, don't be sad,
I know how you feel all I can say is once the baby comes you will be fine and you just need some help also, I'm not sure if you have parents around. Mine don't really help a lot. I'm not going to say it will be easy because it won't, but at least they will be all close in age. Best of luck in here if you need someone to talk to. I know how it is to feel alone.

[DaisyAS]

My husband is in the military too and he will be deployed during the birth of our first baby. I do not have friends or family near me. So I'm going to be completely alone too. It's hard at times, but you just got to keep your head up and try not to stress yourself out too much.

[maybay]

I know it is difficult. We just found out i am pregnant with a deployment happening very soon. My husband  miss everything and we have been told no r and r. New base no friends or family. The best advice I can give is use those free hours that cys provides for child care. Think positive, and find some support. There are counslers on post provided by acs, or talk to the Chaplin.

[Flickan]

What about the welcome wagon? Growing up, everytime we went to a new base, there was a women's group that always welcomed us and had info for support. We called them the welcome wagon. They were usually stick up, but has some info that was useful. Another idea is search online for your area for a MOPS group. It can help you meet new friends and give you a break with the kids.

[Mrs_Baze]

I'm sorry, I can't understand what you are going through. I would talk to your doctor as well. There may be something you can do.

And for what it's worth, thanks to you and your husband for serving; him for serving our country and for supporting him.

[Nichole05]

I am a military wife also  and I have a 6yr and we are also preparing for a new baby and deployment in April, Im hopeful that he can stay behind for the birth and get his paternity leave since this is his 1st but its not a guarantee. Either way I am preparing for him to be gone the 1st 9 months of our childs life and I know it going to be hard but we both can do it. We are 12 hrs away from family luckily I have developed a strong circle of friends that will be a big help. You should contact your frg group and attend some meetings and events to meet other wives that will be facing these months with you. Also try and find play groups or activities for your kids on base, you are not alone in this you just have to put yourself out there to meet new people, friends are the only thing that keep me sane when my husband is away!

[jen_ortiz]

I'm sorry to hear that , I'm not comparing my situation to yours not even a Lil bit because what your going threw has to put so much a lot of pressure and stress on u. My husband is in another state rite now and I hate it every single day he should be here with me :( but for now we have to be like this. Your husband is so brave fighting for his country in my eyes anybody in the military is a hero who never get the appreciation they deserve!!!! Hun I kno it seems so hard but u gotta stay strong for ur kids , unborn child urself and ur husband!!!!!! If u ever need somebody to talk to ill be here for u ok!!!

[militarywifey]

Ladies thank you all so much I appricate every response.