mother in law problems :-(

[thenewmrs_b]

So I don't have a perfect relationship with my mil mostly because she is very prim and proper and I'm a little more rough around the edges but we get along most of the time. She lives two hours away and came with my brother in law this weekend for mothers day... the trip started out bad because she decided her son could have the guest room (instead of the couch) and she would sleep on our aurobed in my 3 year olds room which irritated me because my daughter is a light sleeper and wakes up super early if she hears anything and my mil knows this but still complained all weekend about how tired she was because my daughter woke her up.

Then on Saturday I was trying to prep for our mother's day brunch and decorate the cake etc and get my hw done and she informs me that she is taking her sons and granddaughter to the zoo right now so if I want to come for her first visit this year I have to drop what I'm doing and go!!! So I go because the zoo is my daughters and my favorite and the whole time they are walking ahead of me and taking pictures while I'm waddling my swollen pregnant body around in 80 degree heat and hubby had to ask them to slow down many times.

Then she gets mad that I don't want to go to homegoods with her because I'm exhausted and don't want to walk anymore plus I still have a ton to do so she just leaves. Later on my patents come over and she gets all bent out of shape because my daughter wanted my mom and not her (she never said a word when we bought a house 2 hours from her and 6 minuted from my parents)

Then my dad asks us what time brunch is the next morning and I say anytime before 10 would be good to arrive and she looks me dead in the face and tells me "absolutely not! We are not having people in THIS house until I'm up and ready" wtf? Last I checked it was my house not hers and if I want my parents there at 6 am then they are welcome.

Then on Sunday she was quiet and bitchy to my whole family and spent most of brunch outside on the porch with my brother in law! My whole family asked what was wrong all day... I talked/cried to my husband all weekend and he ended up feeling terrible but didn't know what to do..

My question is, hormones or rotten ***** that pretty much ran my mother's day and made me cry all weekend? Sorry this is so long but it was a lot of background and stories

Oh and never once said anything about my son (27 weeks) even when everyone was feeling him kick etc which is the opposite of how she was when I was preg with my daughter

[mitch_14]

My guess is she was feeling sorry for herself because she figured because she lives a few hrs away the weekend would be all about her and she is probably jealous that your parents are so close to you guys and have such a bond with your daughter. Not much you can do but your husband should tell his mom she is acting like a bag and he doesn't appreciate the way it makes the rest of his family feel. Hope things work out for you.

[thenewmrs_b]

Thanks... its just that we've had mothers day here every year (4 years) and she has never been like this... I just didn't know if I was bring sensitive because of the hormones!!!