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scared and anxious to love my kids equally

Idk if this is a silly question or if anyone else feels like this but I have  a 5yr. Old son who is such a mama's boy he is so loveable loves to cuddle & have one on one time where as my 2 soon to be 3yr old daughter is more independent and doesn't like hugs alot or  cuddling...well I never imagined myself having more than 2 kids and im scared of giving each the time they need or loving them all equally and not give more love or attention to one n not the rest. It just terrifies me and start to feel bad if I don't love them the same :(
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Don't stress, you will just have to make time for each baby doing something special they enjoy. It will be a month or two before you get into a rhythm, but just make sure that you let each one know they are loved and not forgotten. A little bit of time goes a long way. For your cuddle bug try letting him join in on snuggle time with you and the new baby. Read books, watch his favorite movie, things like that. For you independent one do arts and crafts, teach her to cook, or whatever catches her interest, but include yourself in it while she does it. Even if its just to say "good job" or "that's beautiful". You'll figure it out, and hit a stride. :-) have faith momma!
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I was just talking about this the other day!!!!!! I have an 8 yr old that's a mama's boy just like your 5 yr old...i am currently 20 weeks pregnant with a baby girl. I was a little worried too that i wldnt know how to divide my affection evenly, because my son and I are tight, it's just been him and I for 8 years!
But...being the type of affectionate and nurturing mother that I am, I know that I will instinctively divide it evenly according to each child's wants and needs. And, i think you'll do the same. We'll do just fine girl! :)
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Thanks ladies!!! Just the thought of it makes me so insecure but like you said doing all the little things playing with them involving them is what counts the most to them..and yes it should instinctively come after birth I agree we will be fine!!
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