sex and your spouse

[kaykay1020]

Ok... when you physically feel horrible and can not just perform. Does your spouse take it to a whole other level in which he tells you that you're being selfish and not considering his feelings. That he feels rejected and UN loved? Now once again you physically feel horrible this one day out of the week. Am I being the wrong one here?

[BeautyDefined]

You've done all you can with explaining your love for him and how you do want to do those things but your body only allows you at certain times. Let him think about how hes acting. Leave it at that and let him come to you. You have alot on your hands and stressing out is not one thing you need not healthy for you or your baby. He needs to respect that period.

[kaykay1020]

I have tried that as well and it's just not enough. He tells me I don't love him that much and that it hurts him that I reject him. All honesty I tell him it's not simply because I want to reject him. It's because I really do not feel well. For the most part though I need it more than him the majority of the time lol. I've also mentioned I understand how he feels but there is no need to damage our relationship for the things I can not control. No my feelings upon the way he acts means nothing. I'm the one in the wrong and it's not like I have to take care of two other little ones and have no time to actually sit or take a nap or feel tired because of them two. He should understand but according to him feelings and reasoning do not work in the same category. I'm just getting stressed and more sick because of his behavior I just don't know what to do any longer.

[BeautyDefined]

Honey know your worth and needs to be understanding. Im sure you please your man with all the other great things you do for him. Remind him of that and let him know but youll promise to make it up double time later lol :-)

[samread06]

My boyfriend does the exact same thing. Its like really dude your the one being selfish... some men are just so inconsiderate of our feelings or how we feel physically.  Ive tried talking to mine and he still doesnt get it.
@Hinkypunkheid... ive restored to the same thing. I feel so defeated sometimes.

[hinkypunkheid]

I have found if possible to suck it up and give him something you can do just to avoid the fight.  

[marylee06]

Nope i exactly know how u feel, mine does and says worse things no consideration at all! It makes me sad...

[Sammibell]

We're the exact opposite. I want it but he don't and I'm 34 weeks lol. But we had discussed things to do if one does and other don't and pleasure them in other ways. I used to do handyjays lol. Or something. If not just keep talking it through. Explain that the weight gets heavy and puts pressure on your tummy and back etc etc.

[angelama14]

They don't understand. He's being a man child. Don't take it personal I swear they think being pregnant is rainbows and butterflies . Growing a human isn't easy lol