single mom unborn baby

[vanessaC831]

18 days left to be 40 weeks. I still don't have a crib or a car seat. Luckily my mom threw me a bby shower and I got a lot of stuff. I have been with the dad for almost 3 years. He hasn't been very involved in the pregnancy. I'm 25 but had to be on bed rest since 3 months pg. I have no income coming in and my mom has been stepping up in everything. I been asking the baby dad for the seat n crib since I was 5 months. He doesn't seem to be concerned or anything. The closer my due date the more anxious n stressed about not having things ready. I'm sad because we planned this baby. Tried for a year. There's no question here. Just needed to vent. And I don't want everyone knowing our business so fb is a no go. Lol all my "friends" disappeared as soon as I announced u was pg. I just wanted that extra love, the rubbing feet when they get swollen, comfort when I get scared, the reassurance when I feel gross and fat.

[kerraayy]

I am so sorry to hear that you are having to deal with this.  Being pregnant is enough to deal with.  Bedrest is not easy either.  You are doing a great job.  I think folks had good recommendations.  Since you are on bedrest it won't be easy to shop around but see if a relative might hit a yard sale for you to get some essentials as well!  The other suggestions above sound good. Be wary of Craigslist----never meet anyone alone, always meet in a public place and never give your address to a stranger!!!!  Blessings to you and your little one.  Karma will happen for the father.  You just try to relax and secure the essentials! !!!  Good luck with everything! !!!

[KikiFTM]

I'm 22 weeks and ftm sworn to myself never to get pregnant again.

[KikiFTM]

Vanessa I feel your pain. At times I feel all alone and I often find myself stressed out. You plan for a baby try for months then a man just decides to up and leave as he wishes..... That is wrong be strong my dear I'm in the same boat and I will be 26 next month. I feel all alone it's affecting my performance at work and I don't know how to approach my manager and tell her what I'm going through, though she has noticed that I seem rather disturbed lately  

[smith2015]

Have u tried thrive and or birthright? They were both really helpful when i was pregnant with my first child. They can get u all the necessities for baby and no judgement. We all fall on hard times but its nice to know there aee agencies that are able and willing to help

[Lynz1217]

Sorry ur goin through this im Sending prayers ur way! Pack n plays r good n alot cheaper than cribs! N you should check the health department where u live for a car seat program since ur income is low at the moment u qualify for a free brand new infant carseat. Where I lived before in Ohio had the program n here in Tennessee has it also so yours might too!  

[ajeff11]

As long as your baby has what it needs, and the love it needs from you, you both will be fine. You are blessed to have parents that are there for you. I don't understand how after 3 year relationship he can act this way. I think you should leave him and have nothing to do with him! Sometimes people are better off alone, then they end up finding real.love!!

[vanessaC831]

My family has no problem helping out, baby won't go without. But how can any MAN be comfortable letting his babys grandparents have to buy everything for his baby?! How could he not feel the need to b involved? It is not that he can't afford it, I just don't know where his money goes. After asking for things still needed I'm almost embarrassed to keep bugging about it. I have always had my own money but being put on bedrest messed up everything for me. I just wish things were different our baby doesn't need to be feeling me stress and crying everyday. I chose him as the father of my baby, can't put all the blame on him. Praying for better days. The outcome of this entire experience will give me the best gift in life.. My own little man to love unconditional thanks ladies

[shynelle45]

I'm sorry to hear this, fortunately you aren't alone in this experience. I was married for five years and have a twelve year old. For years after my divorce I swore I never wanted to go through that again but this time it was unplanned and has been the most amazing experience because of the man I've been with for almost for years. Things do work out for the best even tho they seem gloomy right now it will come around eventually. I hope things work out for the best for you.

[Meli26catracha]

I'm sorry about your situation. I feel for you. I hope things get better. Have you tried contacting the hospital? Sometimes they know about resources for free or really cheap carseats. I'm not sure where you live but if there is a la Leche group near you they will offer free cribs if you attend breastfeeding classes (they do here in MN) they are nothing fancy but they serve it's porpuse. You can always just have baby in bed with you just get one of those things that separate the baby I'm not sure what they are called. I hope this helps oh n u can always find good cheap second hand cribs or carseats on craigslist. Good luck

[vanessaC831]

I've done everything I could think of. Thank you so much for replying. Before being pregnant I've always said I wanted 3 babies, but now I don't ever see myself wanting to go through it again. I can't thank u enough for replying.

[santi_2010]

I am sorry to hear about the situation you are in especially in a time like this. I went through that with my first pregnancy and ended as a single mother. I have struggled but thankfully my family has been really supportive. I am expecting my second child from another guy and its been all the opposite. I know sometimes all you need is someone to listen to you. You will be a great mother and maybe things are happening for a reason enjoy your child as they grow fast, and don't take things you don't deserve just for you child to have a father.