someone watching my older child/ vent

[ace0112]

I'm so frustrated I have 46 days tell my due date and my SO and I can not agree on someone to watch our 2 year old son when I'm at the hospital for labor and stay. He wants his sister which I would allow if she would come to our house to watch him but she won't and my SO doesn't want anyone staying at our house if we are not home. ( thinks they will go through our stuff. Not like we have anything to hide so I don't see the big deal)  and then he thinks I need to let go or whatever. So I have to comprise but he doesn't.  The whole situation has me so stressed and frustrated.  I just want to have the security of knowing my son is home is in a comforting setting and is safe. Our house is at least baby proofed and all of our families homes are not and is Nit as clean as i keeo ours. He's never been watched by anyone but us so it's hard to even let someone watch him to begin with. Any advice?

[ace0112]

That's how I feel but he's not willing to bend at this point with someone staying at our house his sister said that she wouldn't stay at our house thank you so much

[AshleyGleghorn]

I feel ypur pain my daughter is 22months nd I have never spent a night away from her so going to the hospital will be my 1st time away from her and that alone makes me so sad and stressed. But im having my good friend and her daughter come and stay with her while im having my son they will be staying at my house so that my daughter will hopefully be ok having all her toys and her room nd know where she is at.your husband should let someone come to your house it will help your son with being away from you for however many days you will be gone.

[wishes2891]

Ok so you want to have someone stay in your house and he wants his sister. So maybe to make it fair tell him it's his choice either her at your house or your family at their house. That way you both get something you want and he still feels like he's getting to decide?

[ace0112]

Thanks for all the advice... i do kno i need to loosen up abit but its so hard. His sister also lives 40 mins from our house which makes me a little hesitate on a trail run while my family lives closer but my SO  can come up with a reason why he doesn't want them

[KristiGG]

I am sorry. I understand how you feel.  I dont mind my kids being with relatives during the but night makes me nervous.   I am better now that I have two as they have eachother but when it was just my daughter I already barely slept knowing she was without my husband and I but if she was at another house I really wouldnt have rested.  This time I had adjusted to the idea of my kids staying at my parents but we ended up deciding my mom will spend nights at the hospital and my husband days giving him nights with the kids.  I am stressed if I go into labor at night as then my dad will prolly be alone with the kids.  I love him but I fear he would put them in a different room and they have slippery wood stairs between the rooms and no child gate so I fear the kids would go looking for someone and fall.  You should maybe do a trial night at your SO sisters.  It shows your SO your being open minded.  You can see how the night goes and be there within an instant.  And if it doesn't go well maybe then she will consider your house and if it does you and your son will do better while your in the hospital.   Good luck!

[giraffe1020]

What about day care? You would have a safe environment and no one going through your stuff.

[desnev1]

First and foremost I so understand how you feel as me being a mother! Thats your baby & you want him to be nothing but in a safey zone with people you trust in every shape & form. If you donot trust his sister thats where you put your foot down and not let him stay with her but......Keeping a child in an environment which is knows all the time is not healthy expecially at that age. 2 Years love to explore and be free. Relax be open to letting him stay with his sister, I know it will be nerve reckoning but you wont be in the hosptail forever soon enough you will have both your babies with you :) GoodLuck