stay at home mom?

[mege26]

I have worked since I was 14. I'm 26 now pregnant with #2. My husband says if he gets the job he's trying for I could be a stay at home. Its really tempting because I love spending my days off with my daughter. But I'm kind of nervous about the idea of not working. Take 10 yes off (planning 3-4 kids) and find a decent job again sounds scary. An I'm not used to having to ask my husband for money, I've always had my own. I guess I always wanted to stay at home with my kids but now that it could actually happen, I'm nervous. Is that strange?

[mege26]

Thanks ladies. I feel much better about making a decision if my husband gets the job! Don't know what i'll choose but I don't think I will drive myself crazy! Wait until the time comes. I can always use my maternity leave as a trial!

[KristiGG]

And yes you would do just as good a job as a daycare because you love them.

[KristiGG]

No matter what you choose you are not being selfish! What makes you happy is what makes the kids happy! Both working and staying home have benefits and cons and teach your kids important lessons.  Just do what's best for you and no one else :-)

[mege26]

And I don't want to miss out on my kids growing and learning! I think part of me is afraid I won't teach them all the wonderful things they already learn. Like my daughter switched daycares and I notice a difference in how she eats and acts. Such a little lady at 1 1/2... And I wonder would she do this good if it were just me? Wonder if I would do a good job.

[KristiGG]

I am a sahm and love it.  I never feel like I have to ask for money.  We have a budget set for everything from toys to birthdays to clothes, etc.  It is per person so if I want something I just use my budget.  I am going to go back to work when baby #3 is in preschool hopefully part-time.  But there are some great jobs that allow moms to work full or part-time and still be home most the time.  I am in accounting.  And tho I wont make as much money if I work for small companies I will only need to be in office a few hours a week.  So I can send my kids off to school, be home when they get home and over the summers I will just have to find care for them a few hours a week.  I have also heard dental hygienist can have a pretty flexible schedule.  Maybe you want to look into jobs like these and if you need to do some classes you can do that while the kids r young.  But as long as you and your husband are on the same page with money and have a budget set it really wont be an issue and staying home is very rewarding for you and the kiddos if you can do it.  Good luck making the decision that best suites you! :-D

[kennimae]

I am a stay at home mom and I love it. It ***** sometimes when he doesnt agree on how to spend money but its worth it to spend time with my daughterand have her raised with our morals and beluefs and not someone else's.

[mege26]

I hate having to rely on someone. I'm thankful that my husband would give me that opportunity. I just don't want to feel selfish if I decide to be a working mom.

[abbb01]

No especially since u want to work when they're older and it is a life altering thing but I would jump at the chance!  They're only little once and sometimes I feel like a surrogate. If nothing else I'd find a part time job and idk everybody is different but my husband and I put all our income into joint account and discuss any major purchases or I let him know if bills were really high. If u do stay home please consider urself lucky cuz I am very jealous and dont ever let anyone ******** u that ur not contributing to society ur raising the next generation.

[monkey420]

Well its all up to u and how u feel yws staying at home would be nice but having your own money amd not needing to depend on someone is great also maybe u can stay home until the baby is old enough to be away from u and then slowly progress back into working but having an even amount between work in and being at home like a part time job. Personally I love working and having my own money so I have to work but there's always away to find time at work and at home just find ab job thay can suit ur schedule