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unplanned pregnancy & depression

Hi Ladies

I have been feeling really crappy the last couple of days. I am 11 weeks pregnant with my first child. It was completely and utterly unplanned I got pregnant with a copper IUD (it was exactly where it should be and well placed according to the technician)... initially there was a chance it was in the wrong spot (ectopic) and not viable so that was stressful in itself. I cried for two weeks when the pregnancy test showed positive and have been crying off and on since.

I have an amazing boyfriend we've been together over 4 years and we bought a house in September, we are both 26. I currently work out of town (two hours away) during the week and I am home on weekends so have spent the last year and a half driving back and forth. It's not a job I particularly enjoy but I haven't been able to get anything at home so I've been stuck. I was going to grad school in the fall which I still am going to try to do but my due date is right in the middle of the second semester so I guess I will be taking that off.


Everyone including my boyfriend is really excited but I can't help but feel like my life is over I haven't even been able to live in the house we bought full time, we haven't been on a vacation just the two of us ever, I am worried about the massive changes happening in my body and I am scared this is a huge mistake. All really selfish reasons really but I never had any maternal desires. We never talked about abortion seriously I don't think  I could go through with it I wouldn't want to do that to my boyfriend He would be an amazing dad. I thought I'd get over the shock but I am feeling super depressed and Mondays when I leave home and go back to work I usually sit at my desk and cry. I don't know how to help myself and I feel bad for my boyfriend as he's getting increasingly upset that I am not the teensy bit excited. .. on top of that I haven't had much morning sickness so everyone tells me how lucky I am but mentally I am a wreck. I am in such a better situatio n then a lot of pregnant ladies so I don't know what is wrong with me. I just want to be happy.  
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Im pregnant with my third bb n i was in denial for the longest time but once i saw the bb in the ultrasound my mood changed to excitement! I hopeu get there when u see ur bb on the uultrasound monitor i wish u the best of luck!
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Sorry I think I reposted this by accident
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A child is a blessing....have you had an ultrasound yet? Or maybe when you find out of its a boy or girl things will get more exciting.....your life isn't over many people still accomplish their life goals and have children.....it could just be from so many changes in your hormones....I'm sorry your sad I hope you get feeling better and more excited to....try thinking about what a great mother your gonna be and how much that baby is going to love their momma :)
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I had a lot of ultrasounds initially because they were trying to figure out whether it was in the right spot. So I've seen the heartbeat etc. That was more stressful as it waa emergency appoitnments and it seemed like I'd have to get one of my tubes removed.

I have my first "normal" ultrasound in the city on monday and my boyfriend will be there so maybe some thing will click then.
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It will come all together.. Mine was by far in planed and be and the dad have been barely together I was on birth control and it happened. I also bought a brand new car and was going to go back to school full time as I worked.. I got the news I felt like a rec I even broke up with my bf before I found out but the day I saw the baby I felt a lil eased then when I found out the sex I was in tears of joy.. My pregnancy hasn't been the greatest or planed to well but me and my bf are very strong and getting stronger and now I can't wait for our son to get here.. Its OK to feel this way it will go away in time.. Everything will work out
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