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when to tell my 4yr old?

am pregnant for the second time am only 6 weeks and am starting to wonder when the best time to tell my daughter, i dont want other people to know before her but its so hard keeping quiet?
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5033762 tn?1370785022
when my son was 4. I told him when I was about two months pregnant. and then he would start rubbin on my belly. it was the cutest thing.  and then once I got farther along he could feel the baby move. and he would just laugh. when my son was born, the older one wanted to hold him all the time. But good luck to you
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4528139 tn?1362636267
When my mom told my brother about me (he was four) she taped it :) she said "do you love me?" Yes, momma. "Do you love daddy?" Course, momma. "Do you think you could love a little brother or sister?" I could love dem more than you!

She told him early on in the pregnancy and took him to all her appointments, since my dad was always at work. She cried when she found out I was a girl, so my brother told her "it's okay, mommy, it can change." Most children react very well to a new family member on the way :)
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5237685 tn?1365518402
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You should always tell your family before your friends/acquaintances.

It may seem like it's this "adult's first" thing (as I've experienced talking to most parents,) but it really isn't. Everyone who lives in your house (or if you have other family that DOESN'T, LOL) deserves to know that you are pregnant, even if they're 4 years old. It's your son's business to know what is happening, so go for it!
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thanks guys think we will sit her down tomorrow and the two of us will tell her together.
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My 3 year old guessed when I was 5 weeks as my tummy expanded quickly this time round. (She'd also witnessed 3 members of her staff at her nursery being pregnant in the last year sp very aware of what changes) I said yes without thinking as we had decided until I was closer to 12 weeks in case of problems. She's been over the moon excited about her sibling ever since and loved both scans. She wasn't too happy about it being a boy as she was adamant she'd have a sister but after a week or so of finding out she came round to the idea and can't wait. My only thing is to say that if the worst happened can you handle talking to her about it as she'll want to know exactly what's happened. If you can then I say go for it and if you can take her to the scans she'll love it. Also be prepared that she will tell everyone she meets including complete strangers but especially family and friends! Good luck for tomorrow :-) x
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Hi I'm 16 week now and have a 3 year old and 4 year old and I still haven't told them only because my friend has just had a baby and I told them earlie on and they didn't stop asking when it was comin so I'm trying to wait til my 20 week scan to take them with me xx
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My oldest is nine and youngest is three and I'm in my sixth month. Waiting for one more heart ultrasound before I tell them what's going on
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