why are people so rude?

[jpeebs]

So I'm on baby #4 which was a wonderful surprise since it's been 8 YEARS since my last child was born. I don't know what to say anymore to people. Instead of at least a polite comment, all I get are awful comments.
  "You know how this happens right?" " HOW many does it make now a dozen?" "Seriously" "Well you MUST be done NOW right?" "How are you gonna afford another?"
  I didn't ask anyone to support us. My husband and I are fine. I can add. I'm pretty aware how "it" happened. It's none of your business if we're done. Why can't they be nice and happy for us? I didn't know there was a magic # they all got to choose for us. I thought these people were my friends. Now I'm sick of them all.

[JNC1031]

I heàr you! When I told my boss I was pregnant with my second  he said "Haven't you ever heard of birth control" I was shocked! We were trying for this child and I'm 29 years old. Really what is wrong with that?!?

[mzz_ali]

Im lucky to have supportive friends and family. Me and my siblings are all 4-5yrs apart, Im 25, bro 21 sis 16 and bro 11. Me and my partner want two close together and then wait til theyre at school and go for number 3. My two best friends have 2 kids each, one has 2 boys aged almost 2 and 4 and the other one of each 2 and 3. They both said its hard but easy to have them close! Im open to the idea of more than 3 but we will see lol

[cnj76]

My mother in law told me that if she were me, she wouldn't have more than two. She thinks that's a good number to stop at. I don't even know why she said that because she has 3 kids herself. Lol
It's my body and my and my husbands decision if we want more than one. Which clearly we did because we have a 1 and 2 year old and are ttc #3. I told Dh that I wanted 4. It started as I wanted just maybe 1 or 2. I had 1 then turned around and had 2. Working on #3 but hopefully we get pregnant soon on that one. And then told Dh when they start school, as in ALL of them, then maybe we can start for #4. He isn't sure yet on that part but, 3 is a good number to me anyway :)

[baby2014]

Wow! I just can't believe how unfriendly this world has become toward babies and big families. I'm only on #2 and my grandma has told me to have my tubes tied. Well, I'm a firm believer that children are a blessing and that the Creator of all won't lay anything on you that you can't handle. Children are not a burden but only a blessing and people need to back off. Be rude back. Lol say yeah the last time I checked this is my family and we are raising it not you. Or man I didn't think you hated babies that much. Something off the wall. I love big families and want one for myself if it be the good Lords will.

[HappyBRmomma]

I have one and I'm currently pregnant with baby#2  and a gentleman felt it was appropriate to point ay my belly and say..yeaah I know what you've doing. Seriously, where in the world is it ok to say that to people.  

[jenrydman]

We are expecting #5 next month, totally understand!  My friend gave me a good response when they comment on how many kids we have.  "Yep, it's a good start!"  Leaves them speechless :-)  congrats to you on your blessing!

[kelly_diane]

Congrats, mommy! Im very happy for you! I def know where you are coming from. We are on baby #4 @ 39wks. Im still hearing all the comments of what causes it & am I getting fixed. I just say nope. this baby will be 6yrs younger than #3, too. Was a really big shock to have made it to all the milestones of pregnancy. There was always a part of me just waiting for somebody to pull the rug out from me. Honey, I am truly thrilled for you and yoyr family;0)

[cnj76]

Lol, mine too.. Unfortunately, I've lost contact with most of the people I talked to almost daily on here because I went my own way and they went theirs after we all had our babies. But, I'm back and their still MIA. lol

[Treksy]

Medhelp forum was my family before i could tell minec I feel ya haha

[love2bamommy]

Congratulations on your Baby ...don't worry about what dumb people have to say ....I was hurt as well with this lady at work asking how kinds and if me and my husband were married and I said yes high school sweet hearts my oldest son is now 16 years old my middle boy is 13 and my princess is 7 and God bless me and my family with baby #4 me and my husband work we have a house and this lady had the nerves to tell that why would I have a baby being so old .....I'm only 34 years old she also said that she rather be dead before she had a other baby at my age . I was sadden by her walk away ....Im happily married with my beautiful baby's and so happy with my bundle of joy ..so let them talk mama keep your head up and who cares with them haters that have nothing nice to say. They don't pay our bills or feed us .. stay positive and injoy your pregnancy :))

[cnj76]

When my DS1 was 12 weeks old, I found out I was pregnant and instead of being supportive when they got the news, all they said was "oh, God". As in, why would you want to do that? Well, my second baby was NOT planned. Some times things like that just happen. And throughout my entire pregnancy while taking care of DS1, they'd say I don't know how she's going to do with it with two kids that small. Both in diapers and on bottles. Well, DS2 got here and I made out just fine. They both get their attention apart and together. They're now 1 and 2 years old. And the shocker part that would just throw them overboard is we are starting TTC #3. I'll handle that JUST fine as well. We are not telling anyone this time if I get pregnant. (Hoping I am right now). We're going to wait a little while. The only people that will know other than my husband, will be medhelp :)  

[Treksy]

Im having #3 and the worst for me is "you're crazy" ughhhhh so ruuuude! Total strangers even!

[wishes2891]

When i got pregnant with my third people treated me the same way! Then they would go on to tell me that i should get my tubes tied or an IUD. Thatwwould make me really mad. Now I'm pregnant with #4 and expect to hear it all over again.

[nae_moore]

Congrats on your new addition!! I'm personally on my 3 and don't plan on having anymore. But I see nothing wrong with big families, my dad is the youngest of 10 kids, my mom is the youngest of 5 kids. Don't let the a$$&*-+$ get to you. Be happy about your lil one on the way and enjoy your pregnancy.

[jpeebs]

Thanks you guys! It's been crazy how people act towards me. I appreciate all the love. It helps to know I'm not alone. We are so excited to be pregnant and to have made it this far(we're 15 wks today) we had a miscarriage a couple years ago (at 9 wks) so all the negative reactions were just crushing for me. thanks again!

[dillonsmommy1228]

Don't pay attention to what people say I'm one of 7 from my mom and her n her husband want one of their own together. everyone is so against it but i think if it makes them happy good.. granite my kid will b older but i don't c y people can't b happy for someone.. i mean yall ain't tellin them they need or don't need more babies..

[havincinco]

I started turning it around on people. Either I would say, yeah gotta make up for all those folks who just have dogs (lots of them in CO) or I say "yeah! You'd think as much as we do it, that I'd have more!!" Usually they get all embarrassed and dont know what to say. No one is going to make me feel bad or uncomfortable for having #5!

[sdraper1]

The sad part is people think it's their business no matter what. My only is 8 and for years people would say "only one really?" "sad, he has no siblings" "you need another" "why are you not pregnant" drove me crazy, I would ask if they were planning on paying for my child because I would have to quit to give another child the attention they deserve.
I was promoted a year ago, so now have the time, I'm 23 weeks with boy #2, and get comments about when will we try for a girl. People are rude

[Gemini612]

I've been there too! I'm on #5 as well with same father. People always wanna run YOUR reproductive system. I feel like if I want a big family that's my prerogative. Nobody has to buy wipes and diapers but us. Congrats hun on your families new addition!  Enjoy!

[mzz_ali]

Whoa! Im the oldest of four. Have auntys and uncles with 2-7 child families and thats normal for our culture (Maori) to have big families so no-one says much. When people ask how many we want and I say three they say is that all!!

[annat33]

I'm only on #3 and I get coments so ur done after this one right? By total strangers! I'm like what business is it of yours! I'm so done after this one but even so how many kids I have is none of there business I could have an army if I want to! People think they have a right to have an opinion to everyone's life and they really don't they need to shut up and mind there own business!  

[shastas84]

I'm having #5. I am right there with you! People who don't even know me have made comments! It's not like they are the ones supporting my kids or taking care of them! What makes them feel like they can have a vote?! Ugh!
Well, I'll say it, congrats on the new addition to you and your hubby! :)