Could I be pregnant at 42 (no full sex!!!??) or peri-menopausal...

[kandykatcher]

I feel really stupid. I'm 42 with two children, ages 2.5 years and 7 years. Me and my husband have always said if we had more time, money we'd like another child. But to be honest, we both feel too tired and decided no more kids for us. Now my period is late... by only 4 days so far - but it's NEVER late.

I'm really worried I could be pregnant - but I also don't think it's likely??? We had sex on day 22 of my cycle (cycles are usually 29 days) and it wasn't even full sex - tmi sorry, he pulled out early...

But, my period is late, and a week after sex I got a really sharp pain, that I got before with both children and what I'm very sure is implantation pain. For me it's a really sharp "burrowing" pain, and when I had it with my younger son, implantation bleeding started that day (no implantation bleeding this time).

I know I should take a test, but I'm too scared, I almost prefer denial - stupid I know. I'm swinging between excitement, happiness, fear, feeling like an idiot and crying. It makes matters worse that me and my husband have just moved house are are living separately temporarily. He is looking for work in a different country, while me and the children wait for him to get a job so we can also move and get a house to all be together again. I have no one to talk to and won't see my husband for another month. He's under a lot of stress because he was just made redundant.

My parents who I'm staying with at the moment with my kids will not approve of this news, they help out with the children on holidays and feel like another child would put them and me and my husband under strain (so I can't talk to them about it). And I totally see their points and kinda feel the same!!! We both (until recently) worked full time with little support where we were living, and even though we have two wages we struggle to make them stretch to the end of the month.

I'm confused - and then think - it could be menopause?? My nan had her menopause at 40. Thank you for letting me get this off my chest. I'm scared about all this, and will likely test later today I suppose.

[specialmom]

Well, you know what I'm going to say.  :>)  take a test!  Yes, it can happen.  And the pull out method is not a preventative method.  YOu know this, I'm sure.  Menopause at 40 is uncommon as that is REALLY young and many women do have babies after 40 especially if they have already had children.  My sister is one who did out of nowhere.  

But it sounds like the time is off, you ARE older and it wasn't full ejaculation. So, why worry if you don't have to.  Take a test and be done with it.  Expect a negative but find out for sure.  Why bury your head in the sand, it won't help.  good luck