Worried

[anglfrmhvn69]

Hope someone can answer and give me some reassurance I'm 41 years old I had unprotected sex on November 11 that was first day of ovulation I didn't know at the time. Please don't judge me but I cheated on my husband the worst bad choice I've ever made our marriage has been on egg shells since his mother moved in. Anyways I know this man very well and he is clean no STDs but the whole month of November I stressed worried til I got my period at the end of November on the 30th last 6 days flow normal period. I thought I was in the clear. My period app which is almost always accurate said I should start on Dec 27 I didn't I waited three days late I took a test said negative I waited 8 days late took another negative and then I waited 15 days late took another negative. Here I am still stressing that I'm 23 days late and still no period. I keep thinking over and over I had a period the end of November normal period after the fact of what I done. My husband knows I cheated and we are working on things but this is eating me alive I hate myself. Should I relax and stop stressing since the pg test is negative? Or is there still a possibility?

[specialmom]

Hello.  First, no judgement but this is a big wake up call for you.  Your marriage is in jeopardy due to your actions.  If his mother living with you causes this kind of stress, then you need to be clear and speak with him that you can't do it.  It's okay to have boundaries.  You need to set them.  Even if she stays, set a boundary for your home so you still feel like it's your home.

Okay, SOOOO, you are most likely not pregnant.  Apps are great but they just average numbers and don't check our hormone levels or know what is going on with our body or our life.  Stress is a main reason for periods being late as is change in routine.  Illness, weight gain or loss also contribute.  Thyroid issues or hormonal imbalance are also both big reasons for irregular cycles.  but I'm going with the stress of your infidelity and guilt.  

Can you see a therapist either by yourself or with your spouse to get your life back on track?  And cease all communication with the man that clearly is someone you know.  You should.  

Anyway, don't think you are pregnant.  good luck

[anglfrmhvn69]

We have been speaking and communicating with each other over everything in our marriage it all began when his mother moved in he wasn't listening to me and she is really a hateful spiteful somebody. So my marriage has problems before my actions but that was still no reason to do what I did yes I have alot of guilt and regret and I haven't spoken to the other man since. And again thank you for replying