can anyone give me an answer?

[tikkntate]

me and my husband have been trying to conceive for over 2 years. we haven't had any luck yet. my ovulation calendar says i was supposed to ovulate 6/2/12 we have sex 1-2 times a day, so i know i am not missing any days. on 6/16/12 i started out spotting, then turned into having to change my pad. i stopped bleeding that night. the next day me and my husband had sex and i started bleeding again. both times were bright red. when i wiped i noticed a purple looking blood clot about the size of a quarter. i was cramping very bad. then that night i stopped bleeding again. today when i wipe there is really light pink blood and nothing else. but every time i have intercourse with my husband now it is slightly painful and uncomfortable. i have mild pain in my lower back. mostly when i bend. my breasts feel a little swollen but not much and they don't hurt. can anyone help me and give me some info on what i should do or how i could conceive?

[tikkntate]

i dont know why but i think i am addicted to sex. i like it a little bit too much lol

[KTowne]

hahah good for you, I can NOT do that! I was wearing down doing it every day for over a week, phew!

[tikkntate]

id rather do it multiple times... lol but we been doing that everyday for 2 yrs and 2 months.

[KTowne]

Stressing about it is likely your problem hun, just have fun, make it about just sex again, instead of a chore, get some toys, some outfits, spice it up! And unless your husband has sperm count issues there's no need to wait every other day, my husband and I tried it and it didn't work for us, 2 months of doing it every day we were pregnant. You don't have to do it multiple times a day though, unless you'd rather, hahah.

[tikkntate]

yes i understand that but the jealousy is so bad we cant even go in public because i would get mad if a girl looks at him and he looks back and he gets mad if i look at anything but the floor but this is a pregnancy forum so i dont want to discuss my problems on it i want to make a baby. we have been wanting a baby for a while and we have been trying. it just wont work. the day it does i am sure that we wont have these problems anymore. we get stressed and argue bc we are trying so hard to have a baby it is dragging us apart because we havent had one yet.

[Clysta]

Which is likely also why you're not pregnant. Stress is one of the best birth controls out there. You're young, why rush things? It's more likely to happen when your partner and you enjoy being together, not set it on a schedule and plan it. Just sit back and let things happen on their own. Go out, party, dinner with just you two, grocery shopping alone (I never realized how nice it was to do alone) heck just lay around all day. Once you have kids things get harder, and even the best marriages fall apart. Jealousy, stress, lack of sleep, the crying... It's hard on anyone.

[tikkntate]

it does we are really stressed out with this ttc thing.

[Clysta]

It would be worth working on before getting pregnant and/or having children. It generally slows down a lot after both, and if you fight because you're not it could cause severe strain on you both.

[tikkntate]

we have been having sex more than once a day. maybe we should slow down...

[tikkntate]

thank you. i was told that but when we dont have sex we argue. lol

[sam75]

i also use ovulation strips from ebay and chart my temps everyday. with my last son we were told we were having too much sex, at least once a day. we started intercourse every second day and fell pregnant. after trying for two years id definetly be going to see a speacialist. in australia its a simple as seeing your dr and getting a refferal to a specialist.

[Clysta]

It's also worth mentioning, you could be having sex too frequently. It's a common thought that more is better, but for males it isn't. For best results you would have sex every other day leading up to ovulation and then a few days after. Let's it build up a little more. Good luck!!

[tikkntate]

thank you so much i am going to order them whenever i get the money. i lost my job recently and i am not having much luck.

[KTowne]

Glad I can help, if you have any questions about them when/if you order them, send me a message, I'll add you!

[tikkntate]

thank you so much you have been so helpful to me :)

[KTowne]

http://www. amazon .com/Wondfo-Step-Ovulation-Strips-50-Count/dp/B004IJHDN6/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1340241643&sr=8-2&keywords=wondfos+ovulation+predictor+kits

Make sure you don't space between www. amazon . com, I only did that so it didn't blank it out on me, But that's $14 for 50 of them, enough for two months! And they work awesome!

[tikkntate]

thank you so much. is there any way you can post a link to them?

[KTowne]

Ovulation kits, you can buy online and get a pack of 25 for $15 on amazon, that is one month's worth, sooo worth it, we got pregnant in 3 months from them!!

[tikkntate]

thank you. i was told the first time i was pregnant that i had cysts but they never done anything and gave me a medicine called flagyl and i had a miscarriage and i havent been able to get pregnant since and that was in 2010. before me and my husband got married. how much are the ovulation kits. i dont have much money so i have just been using the free calendars. i dont have a regular doctor because i dont have insurance. i dont even know how i would be able to find a fertility specialist. thank you once again. :)

[KTowne]

That might be a cyst or something else causing pain while you have sex, have you been tested for anything? It sounds like endometriosis to me, and that can cause problems conceiving. I would mention this to your doctor, just to be safe! Are you only using a ovulation calendar, or are you using ovulation predictor kits as well? If you're only using the ovulation calendar, I suggest starting ovulation predictor kits, I used the ovulation calendar and it was off by about 3-4 days, which is a BIG problem with TTC. Otherwise, it's been 2 years unsuccessful, this warrants a trip to a fertility specialist to see what's going on, maybe run some tests and see what's going on! Good luck!!