midlife pregnancy & older male silblings 16 & 10

[Zachs]

My wife and I are young parents. I'm 33, and she's 37. We had our first son very young in 1994 (unplanned), and had our second son (planned), in 2000. We had practiced safe sex remedies to avoid pregnancy close to 10 years, but to our suprise my wife has become pregnant unexpectedly. We have done nothing different recently to what we've done in the past. So now her pregnancy is extremely worrisome for us since we had nice plans for ourselves once our kids were off to college or on their own. Now these plans have been put another 18+ years ahead.

We know what to do... I guess we are still in shock, and are looking for some suggestions or maybe others have had this experience and would like to  offer comfortable words of wisdom.

We are excited in some ways, and depressed in others.

Thanks in advance!

[tinytoes200]

when i decided i wanted another child my dh said his plans would be gone out the window,he dreamed of the day the kids would be out on there own and he could do stuff like going on holidays,taking up a hobby and things like that,and hes adding another 18 years on to his life and calculating what age he would be when the baby is 21! as i told him,for us,kids are our life and he done such a great job with the others,well since  we got the two lines,hes delighted now,planning a bigger car! and cant wait to tell everyone.although he says hes getting the snips after this one!!

[Zachs]

Thanks so much for the reinforcing kind words. Maybe we'll start a baby tracker...

God bless...

[ajduck]

My husband is 38 and I am 34. We didn't at first think we wanted another child since our daughter is 10, but all of sudden felt we should try and before we could change our minds, we were pregnant. There has been a lot of thoughts on how things are going to be put on the back burner now.  Even though, we were not preventing it, we were shocked. I guess what i am saying is we are having alot of the same feelings. I don't think it is unusual. Just keep the faith, there are reasons for everything. we just don't always know what they are.