should i let the father b in the room?

[abbc]

Ok so I am a week from my due date n I have been separated from her father about two months after I found out I was pregnant so it's nothing new for him to b absent well I am in the situation now to figure out who I want in the room with me n I just don't feel comfortable being in that venerable state with him to me it's strange I think it is to personal to allow him to b there with me when I labor but my compromise was he could come in when I started pushing so he could see her born n cut the cord like every other dad but he didn't like that idea idk do I seem mean for wanting privacy should I just let him b there idk ladies can you help me out ?

[goasknora]

I'm doing it alone. At first I thought I wanted people but imngoing to be a single mom and I want this intiment expierebce with just my son

[RoseFairy]

I'm in labor currently and I refused him to be part of labouring. He can come anytime after baby is born. His concern is baby not you so don't cramp your space trying to accommodate him. You need to be totally comfortable with your birthing partner. Rather choose a close friend or relative

[Aprilmomma]

If you don't feel comfortable having him there then don't. It is completely your choice doesn't matter if he is the father or not. It is your body so it's your right. It's called labor for a reason, it's not easy and you being uncomfortable will just make it worse. Need to do what's right for you.

I'm not with the father of my child either. We were never together. He does want to be there to watch his son born but I'm not sure how comfortable I am with him there. We aren't close and all dignity goes out the window during this so not sure how I feel about him seeing me like that.

But I compromised saying he can be there but if I at all feel uncomfortable or get to self conscious or he makes it more difficult then he leaves, no arguments.

[hippiemama1]

Do what you're comfortable with. Honestly, labor is already so difficult why make yourself more uncomfortable and stressed out. You need to do what's best for you and baby. He needs to respect that especially since he's already been absent for so long. Best wishes!

[ckendra38]

I think ultimately it's up to you. Personally I think if he wants to be in there and be a part of the birth of his child he should have that. But the best person to decide is you because you know best what's going on with your situation. I would just say even if you and him are not compatible, don't deny him this experience if he wants it. But what ever you decide I'm sure will be what you think is best.

[Miszydd]

My son's dad left me when I found out that I was pregnant. My sons 6 in a half, I let his dad in the room when I had my C-section thinking he would respect me more... And nope.. nothing he still isn't in my son's life till this very day. People are different tho.. I wish you the best of luck! If you know he won't be there I wouldn't allow it. I wished I could go back and find better support lol