Avatar universal

Rant Alert: expectation of Husband

just want a general rant. I'm
32 weeks pregnant, have type 1 diabetes and now on crutches due to pelvic girdle pain.

My husband still expects me to to run around like I did before I was pregnant. I'm currently the only driver, so this weekend he asked if I want to take him and other kids (step children) to a theme park. When I say no, he looks at me
Like I'm tight... Then he suggests walking around an animal park... Erm... No!
Still expects me to run about shopping, taking him and kids places, sex... And all this on the roughly 5 hours sleep I'm currently getting and still holding down my full time job.
Yeah ok... I'm 'Wonder Woman' but not friggin Super Woman
3 Responses
Sort by: Helpful Oldest Newest
Avatar universal
I'd be telling him to shove it up his a$$. He has 2 legs and a heartbeat, he can take the kids for a walk somewhere while at home doing your own thing... Your pregnant, have diabetes and on crutches. Why should you do everything for him and the step kids? Don't mean to sound horrible.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
I was going to say exactly what 19jellybean94 said. Tell him to get over it, it's time to put YOU first. As long as you are doing everything you possibly can to keep up with things, the extras can wait.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
My husband doesn't have a drivers license either, and i have cfs (chronical fatigue syndrome) and a license. In the beginning it gave some struggles between us too, cause he just sortof assumed that i'd drive anywhere, but i wasn't always able to because of my illness. He has come to realise, luckily, that him not having a license is his own fault and responsibility, not mine.

I've always made a point of it that he can go do things without me, that i'm physically not capable of. I don't want to hold him back. If he can't go somewhere because i won't drive, that is him holding himself back, not me holding him back. He now looks for alternative modes of transportation, or goes with someone else or so, if needed.

So on the driver part: make clear to your husband that you don't want to hold him back to go out with his kids, but that he'll have to do without you, because you are physically unable to. Also make it clear to him that driving when you're to tired (or ill) is simply dangerous. It is for everyone, and you are carrying baby now so you're risking an extra life/health.
He can look for public transportation, or go with like the grandparents or neighbours or friends.  We spent 2 months in California without a car: we rented bikes and went by train and bus and such to go where we wanted.

On everything else: don't let him push you around. You need to take care of yourself ánd your baby. HIS baby. Don't push yourself to far, it'll hurt the baby too. Tell him when it is to much for you, and then take a rest. Let him deal with it.

Helpful - 0
Have an Answer?

You are reading content posted in the Pregnancy: Aug 2015 Babies Community

Didn't find the answer you were looking for?
Ask a question
Popular Resources
Get information and tips on how to help you choose the right place to deliver your baby.
Get the facts on how twins and multiples are formed and your chance of carrying more than one baby at a time.
Learn about the risks and benefits of circumcision.
What to expect during the first hours after delivery.
Learn about early screening and test options for your pregnancy.
Learn about testing and treatment for GBS bacterium.