anyone else NOT have a shower...

[happynifer]

feeling sad and having a pity party that i am 35 weeks and have had no shower for my first baby.
my family is all out of town, i only moved here 2 years ago and most of my friends are out of state....
it's not that i even care about getting "stuff" i just wanted to celebrate my first child :(

[ivy_kween88]

I'm 36 weeks 2 days! I didn't have a shower, but off coarse this is NOT my first baby! I had one with Angel and that was the main reason why I decided not to have one with this baby. I decided I wanted a Welcome Shower instead (: so ill have one once he's born! My family and husbands family wanted to make another one for us since our first baby was stillborn, but I decided to wait. I think its the best thing I could have done!

[lori0615]

I did not have a shower with my first child and did not have one with this baby either, do feel a little sad but figured we will have a party after she is born so everyone can welcome here, kinda like ivy_kween said

[brigadiva]

Ditto :o(  We are in the same boat.  I moved up here and away from everyone I know when my DH and I got married (he is military).  And since I was unable to find work in this area I really haven't gotten to know anyone here lol.  So, no shower for me either.  This is my third baby though.  My Mom threw me one for my first, and all the sweet Moms at my son's preschool threw me one last time.  I, too, have been thinking about throwing a party after she arrives when my in-laws come in January, but we will see.  I don't know if too many paople who would travel up here for it... we don't exactly live in an exciting town :o)

[jmomof3]

I'm in the same boat as well. This is my first child with my new husband but my forth child overall and I've never had a baby shower either. I am a little disappointed, it isn't that I wanted gifts I just wanted to celebrate the coming of our new little one. Unfortunately I only have my mom and sister close by and no close friends so I guess I'm alone on this one too. I'm hoping to through a party after she is born, my husbands family is all in Montreal and we live near Winnipeg MB so I'm not too sure if any of them will be able to make the trip here in the new year but we'll try to work something out.

[happynifer]

i like the welcome party idea.  maybe we'll do that for her 1 month birthday or something...to give me enough time to be up to planning it.

[smjmekg]

I'm not having one either. It's my second, but it's a girl, and I agree it's not just about "getting stuff" she's covered for the first couple months now anyways, BUT I feel guilty because I look at showers as celebrating a new baby. Even though she's not here yet, and wouldn't be for the shower, it's a day to celebrate bringing a new life into the world, and to get together with friends and family before the "big day"...kind of a last get together before baby.

[Chez_lee81]

I have never had a baby shower either and this is #3. I might be a bit of a party pooper but I really dont like going to them so I refused to have one myself. It is so much nicer to catch up with friends after baby is born. I am sure I wouldnt be able to keep them away then.

[connorethansmom]

I had one with my first and my MIL threw one for herself for #2.  It was a strange thing.  She lives out of state and #2 was a girl (she always wanted a girl), so she threw a baby shower and all her friends brought presents and then wrapped them and sent them to me.  It still seems odd to me.  Nothing for #3 though, which makes since, since I already have one of each.  I think every birth should be celebrated.

[Caralea]

I didnt have a baby shower with my first born, we were in a tough situation and at one point considered addoption- cause I was not in a stable relationship. I changed my mind as time got closer and my mom decided to throw an after baby party for me (since we didnt know the gender- this would give people time to find out). Because he came so late and my hospital stay was so long, the party was litterally a welcome home and I had 40 people in my house before I even got there.

This time around, I am in a wonderful relationship with my husband and we tried for this baby. We're having a girl- so different gender this time and our first together. I had the privledge of 2 shower, one my mom threw and one my friend threw- it was an akward feeling being the center of attention, but also very nice to have so many loved ones around!! I have been very blessed, my unborn daughter is very blessed and has more than enough love to share.

I hope you girls have wonderful meet-the-baby parties and everything goes well for d-day!!

[JadedSweetheart]

I haven't had a shower, either and I was feeling a little bummed about it, too.  I admit it, though, I was partially in it for the presents.  I had a shower with my first 13 years ago, and one for my second 10 years ago.  This is my first with my now husband and his second baby as well, so it's not like we never had one.
I just never realized how much you have to buy and how much it all costs when you have to buy every outfit and every large item yourselves.  
Thankfully we have been blessed enough to get everything we need and we have been blessed by our family with gifts above and beyond what I would have ever asked for or expected but I was still a little bummed as I didn't realize there were so many of us who didn't have a shower this go-round.
I'm so glad you started this topic, it's good to know we're not alone!  I think the welcoming party is a great idea and that you especially deserve to have a shower for your first baby!  We live far away from family, too so I know it's hard.  I hope your welcoming party is wonderful!

[nika0213]

you can still have one