Hate family gatherings

[acanfield18]

So..no real question. .just a rant. Thanksgiving is tomorrow and my SIL is hosting. I invited my in laws because it's Thanksgiving and that's what you do...told everyone then that if having my husband's parents at dinner was an issue, I'd host. Mind you, we had a conversation before and everyone agreed that if the parents didn't make plans, they'd be welcome,  no matter where dinner was held. Any who..I envied them, it was a  issue so I said I'd host..well no one wanted to do that...so still at SIL house and mom and dad are coming. Fast forward to today, I was helping her to get things ready and she pulls out a toddler table for the kids. My kids are huge, my son is 6 but looks 10, he doesn't fit at a damn toddler table. I said that while it may habe worked in previous years, the kids do not fit at the little table and we're old enough to be sitting with everyone else. Well I got told I at 9 months pregnant could sit on the floor if I wanted to sit with my kids. That I wasby hosting so I didn't have a say...well I planned on hosting, but I'm a week away from having a baby so everyone said no...also, I don't think it matters who is hosting it's ignorant to think that a kid who doesn't fit at a little table should be stuck sitting at it. Also, they always want the kids and adults to eat separate...even when it's just a regular night that we end up having dinner togethwr, I've made it known that my kids are not second rate citizens and shouldn't be treated as such. They are part of this ****** up, dysfunctional family too and should be allowed to eat with the other family. Now, they aren't doing this to just.my kids, theirs too but their means of parenting is hands off, they want their kids out of sight out of mind, unless of course it's beneficial to them, then kids are like an accessory. Not how I do things..in my family, kids are equally part of things and I refuse to treat them differently...now, I am scrambling to get a dinner together for my family because I want to eat with my kids, not my kids at some little *** table shoved in the corner...so ******* annoying and ignorant..I don't get it

[acanfield18]

Thanks. I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one who sees that it's dumb. On top of their attitude, they are blaming my pregnancy on why I am so mad...apparently I have no actual opinions or feelings,  just hormones. Which is also rude, I hate when my feelings are discounted. My BIL calls my husband and apparently SIL is crying and her feelings are hurt...wtf? If she wasn't being an *** to begin with this never would have blown up. But now I'm a hormonal *****....what's new? F them. So over it.

[Jonesy2015]

I agree with you. No need to shove the kids at a table that is too small. My family has always done the kids eat in the kitchen and the adults eat in the dinning room when I was growing up. Not because they didn't want us but because there was literally no room for everyone. Now when we do family stuff everyone is spread out so much and eating in different rooms it doesn't feel like family. I always eat with the kids now and whoever else wants to eat with us. I rather be with the kids than the boring adult lol