? about contraceptive

[Majikat]

i got spermacide foam the other day cause i dont want to take hormonal b/c and since the baby have been using condoms and im just getting sick of those.... anyways i have read a couple things saying that if you get pregnant while using it that it could cause birth defects..... does anyone know about this or has read a conclusive study on it... although im not planning for another baby i still know that it can happen no matter what b/c im using and i forsure dont want to be using something that could harm the baby if i did end up getting pregnant

thanks for your help

[Majikat]

ya try not to compare yourself to anyone cause all you can do is do your best and you will be great :)

[SunWorshiper_26]

God bless both of you taking care of three children!!  And Maji with an autistic child, that alone is a huge responsibility and very draining.   Rcc every family is different. You cannot compare yours to your mum it isn't the same. We do cope because we have no choice and you my dear are doing an amazing job

[rccresswell]

See my husband is great but it is still never enough.  You definately do have your hands full.  My mum says you cope because you have to and that is what I am trying so hard to do. I think I compare myself with my mother to much and try and do everything which wears me out in the process. My kids are good but trying to stay on top of everything is the difficult part.

[Majikat]

o no thats terrible must have been painful to have an infection... have you heard of the new no scalpel vasectomies? there supposed to not be as bad.... i just hope he makes the appt soon i have three boys and my middle one is autistic i think i would go insane if i had 4 although im doing really good with the three i think mainly because i mentally prepared myself so well..... and my dh is very useless and does not help out at all so im pretty proud of myself lol

[rccresswell]

Yeah I was the same.  My husband couldn't wait to make an appointment, we were more concerned they wouldn't let him do it because of his age.  We had tried when we were pregnant with Ella and the doctor made it so hard so we went through family planning.  They asked him how many kids he had and that was about it.  In Aus he had to make an initial appointment to discuss the procedure and why you want it done and then they do it later that month.  We paid 150 for it which was very cheap considering we were told it could cost up to 700.  Over here we have medicare which you pay through your taxes.  So if you go public you don't have to pay for anything when you have a baby or go to the doctors.


One piece of advice I would give you is to let your partner REST for about 5 days.  I mean he just needs to stay in bed ALL day and put peas on it ALL day.  My husband didn't rest because he felt terrible I had to deal with two kids and a newborn that didn't shut up.  His ended up getting infected which prolonged the healing process.

[Majikat]

i just dont want any hormones they mess me up too much.... he is supposed to get a vesectomy but hasnt made an appt yet..... just hope i dont get pregnant cause of his slowness

[rccresswell]

What about that thing that goes in your arm - I think it is called implanon???? not sure though.  It kind of goes in your arm for 5 years.  You could always do the vasectomy thing lol.  I have never liked being on birth control and my husband agreed - I put on so much weight when we first started dating because of the pill.  We had so many people offer their opinions about him getting a vasectomy at 26 but it didn't stop us.  We made the decision early on that if we separated we didn't want blended families (long story why) and mu husband DID NOT want anymore kids!!!!!

[Majikat]

ya some people get bad skin reactions from it, but i have not thank god... i thought it was a good choice as long as i follow my ovulation but the birth defect thing really freaks me out

[SunWorshiper_26]

I don't know but my close friend tried that stuff and said it burned really bad. I'm not sure of that is normal but it totally scared me away from it lol

[rccresswell]

I'm sorry I wouldn't have a clue!!!  My hubby had a vasectomy so we don't have to worry about that stuff anymore :)