Baby shower #

[SunWorshiper_26]

I was wondering if there is an average number of people that one invites to a baby shower.

Back story:  my sister is throwing my shower and my mom is helping. My mom has 8 sisters plus there are several cousins who would be offended. Between that, my fathers side, my husbands side of the family and a few friends we are up to 50 people half of which won't come bc they live out of state. My mom says it's too much money (though with both my parents working I don't think that money is that much of an issue) so now my mother is telling me to not invite people who are my good friends. My MIL isn't going to throw me a shower she's a bit self involved. She never threw us a engagement party, bridal shower or anything nor did she contribute in any way towards our wedding so I can't imagine she would pull her head out of her own butt to do something nice for us. So I'm not sure what a normal head count on a shower is. My mom says she wants it at their house and they can't fit that many people :/

[SunWorshiper_26]

I asked my hubby and he said no. I thought I'd at least offer.

[alyssagillstrom]

Did anyone else do a co-ed shower? I'm thinking about it because of all my hubbys friends...though that will make it large.

[lil_lady25]

alyssa - I totally felt the same way. I didnt want a ton of people there because for 1 I hate being in front of a group of people with all the attention on myself. And reason 2 was because with a smaller group it is more intimate and you are able to visit with each and every one of your guests and thank them for coming personally. I was able to greet and hug goodbye every one that came to my shower and I couldnt have asked for anything more. But I know everyone has their own preference!

[alyssagillstrom]

I have a list of about 25 ppl that I want there, and thats not including what my mom and friend have planned. I'm not sure if I want a huge party, I get that overwhelmed feeilng around a bunch of people and I feel like I might break down crying about something crazy in the middle of presents or in the middle of anything for that matter because of my nutty hormones. Im so excited though. Most of my list will be family I think, I dont have a huge list of 'friends'.

[bubbahbigsis]

i had a husge baby shower for my first. i come from a large family and they all live close and he has a pretty big family that lived close plus my friends. my mom threw it for me. her, my grandma and my aunt made the food i would say there was 100 plus.. for my second(different father) his mom threw one for me but he is from michigan so they didnt have to travel to us we went to them. they used the hall at there church and it was really nice i got to meet lots of his family that we normally dont get to see and i think there was 40 plus people at that one. her sister and sister in law helped make the food and the cake. from what they told me it wasnt all that expensive they just had some salads and desserts. mainly finger foods

[SunWorshiper_26]

Thank you so much ladies!!

[lil_lady25]

We invited about 25 people to my shower and 20 were able to make it. I didnt want to invite many family/friends from outside of town because I didnt want to make them feel bad about not being able to make it. So long story short I didnt invite any of my family because they all live 4+ hours away. For my shower DF's mother rented us a hall to use and it was perfect because her house would not be able to hold 20+ ladies comfortably. It turned out great and all of DF aunts, grandma's, ect brought a dish to pass so it wasnt just one persons responsibility. Wow I cannot imagine having 90 people at my shower. It would take you all day to open all of the presents! haha

I say to invite your closest friends and immediate family. But if people are going to get offended if you dont invite them - then invite them too! Hope you have a great shower!

[rccresswell]

Hey all

I remember with my first I only had about 14 people.  My husband's family are very close so I had to invite his aunties and cousins and I only invited very close family members from my side.  The rest I don't think couldn't care less.  I only invited friends I spoke to on a regular basis.  We didn't go all out with the invites but my sis did spend a bit of money on mine and we made all of the food from scratch.

I hope that helps.  

[SunWorshiper_26]

No worries wannabeamommy I totally get what you are saying :)

Majikat this is baby 3 you are cooking in there?  You go girl!  I have three dogs and they are a lot of work, you must have the patience of a saint :)

[Majikat]

There were about 60 people at my baby shower for my first child when I was 16.... I thought it was ridiculous but my mom did it for me.... She invted a lot of her friends... I think cause I was 16 and she wanted me to have lots for the baby.... My normal baby shower for the same baby was about 15ish.... I never had a shower for my second baby or this one.... But any # is fine you just need to have enough space for a lot of people

[wannabeamommy0124]

I didnt mean it to sound like u had to invite more ppl to get more gifts, but now that i read it it does sound like that... i meant your list is already 50 ppl long... that i am sure is mostly family and close friends? i know my list is only family and really close friends (we have a large family) and like u said its ppl that would be offended if they werent invited.. so sorry if it sounded like i was doing it all for the gifts, as i am the least materialistic person i know (that sounds coincieded but i dont mean it too) lol.. anyways i am having a hard time making things sound the way i want them to so im just gonna stop now...

all i am going to say is, i know its ur mom and sister throwing ur shower buti would think ift they want it at their house its because it is a confortable size and can fit a confortable amount of ppl. I would just speak to them and ask them how many people they think they can fit in hte house and then maybe you can make ur list around that...

[SunWorshiper_26]

Thnx that does help!  It's not about the gifts I just want to celebrate with my friends and family. I am the same way with wanting to invite out of town people too bc I appreciate that they think of me and invite me too. :).

[wannabeamommy0124]

well for my shower we are up to at least 90 ppl that have been invited... this is though doing it the hispanic way which means both men and women are invited and children as well.... so that makes a difference... but, we are also having it at my mom's which is a 3 bed Town house but has a hugeeee backyard... and thats where we help our wedding too (it was very informal and had about 80 ppl attend), so we know the ppl will fit, the good thing about us is that miami doesnt get too cold so we will be able to do it in hte backyard. as for the money... we are keeping it very simple... no tables just chairs (we are used to eating on our laps lol), i hand made the invitations, we are making our own party flavors, one of my close friends is making the cake, one of my moms friends is making the food. I dont know what the average number is but i guess it depends on what their budget is, plus remember u may want to spend a little less on decorating and food and all that, and keep it simpler, that way you can invite more people and make it more worth it gift wise...

[trh0819]

I'm not sure there is a normal count and I've never had family throw my any showers for me (engagement, wedding, or baby)-- it's always been close friends. I only invite people I talk to on a regular basis. Otherwise, I feel like I am inviting to get a gift. If I had to locate an address, they likely weren't a close friend, but that's just me.

My shower this past weekend had 15 on the guest list. I have one with another 15 or so but more family than friends, a couples shower with 10 couples, and my big shower has 24 girlfriends, I think.  Each of these includes my sister, mom, and mother-in-law as part of that number though. As for out of town friends, I included them on one list so they'd feel included even if they couldn't come. I always appreciate my far away friends mailing me an invite. I don't know if that's helpful at all but that's my two cents... assuming it's worth that much  :-)