Can't stop obsessing!!!!!!!!

[Majikat]

So as you all know that my middle son is Autistic and since i was pregnant I was worried about if Ezra would have it... althoug i did not think I would make my self go insane over trying to figure it out and wait and see.... I really think this is the root to all of my anxiety lately cause i just cant stop obsessing about it!!!!

he seems perfectly normal to me i dont think that he is really behind on anything but if he was he did have a lot of recovery time from his injury and three surgeries

here is a list of what he does probably not a colmplete list but this is what i came up with

*always pretty happy smiley and laughing although he has a bit of an attitude the past few days
*responds to name from different directions sometimes ignores me if he is busy playing (which freaks me out)
*says kitty cat
*plays patty cake when asked although he does not clap his own hands he takes my hands and claps them for me
*good eye contact
*babbles well many different sounds
*puts balls in correct spot on his ball toy
*interest in kids and animals
*does not fixate on spinning or lights
*reaches to parents to get up
*pulls self up
*gets into sitting position on own
*cant fully crawl yet but very close
*feeds self snacks and can put spoon in mouth
*cries when something is taken  a way
*cries for attention
*plays peek a boo and enjoys it
*looks for toys that i hide under blankets
*knows the concept of cause and effect
*enjoys baths
*gives kisses on command when he wants to lol
*gives hugs and cuddles and says awwwww
*social anxiety in large gatherings or with some new people
*afraid of vaccum but we are working on that
*he has interest in my facial features poking eyes and mouth
*rteacts to different emotions properly most of the time
* I have been trying to teach him to wave but no luck yet

I just cant stop freaking out i want to just be like yay he doesnt have it but i dont want to yet i cry about how i dont want him to have it cause it will make his life crap i want him to be able to live his life... i have done everything in my power to try to prevent it

such as
posponed cord clamping till it was done pulsating so he got all his stem cells
no shots yet which i know is crazy i just want to wait till he is out of the woods to start that
i ate orgnanic when pregnant

[mature_enough]

True.

[SunWorshiper_26]

Developmentally the fear of strangers and such is very normal for his age. Post traumatic stress disorder does not occur in infants. Yes it may have been stressful at the time but he most likely has long forgot about that by now and will never be able to recall what happened. Try and stay calm about this all or it will rub off on your children. A stressed and worried  mommy leads to stressed anxious unhappy children.

[trying43]

I think the scared thing is normal.  Lauren has toys that freak her out. And she is not a people person unless she knows u and doesn't like anyone who is too loud.  Also my middle son was like that until he was 4!  I think he was scared of his own shadow.  Now he is the most outgoing kid ever!  I think its a little phase they go through where they like familiar things.  Just keep you head up.  I think things are gonna b ok.

[Majikat]

I know that there are no signs but yes its just hard not to stress about it... it really gets to me cause i want to think he doesnt have it but i dont want to get my hopes up and be wrong.... one new thing i was doing with him today was asking him to pass me something and he was doing that too... so he is following instruction pretty well...

One thing that is freaking me out is that he has been getting scared pretty easily lately.... like some toys that look a litte weird he gets scared of and he doesnt really like crowded places or strangers coming near him he gets really scared... i was wondering if he could have Post traumatic stress from his accident... cause that was obviously probably very stressful for him and the three surgeries as well would have been stressful and could have made him more timid in general?

[SunWorshiper_26]

From a professional stand point I assure you that he is developmentally on track. The big signs are lack of communication such as babbling, not playing peek a boo, not looking for someone when they walk away but these are all things that he does. I wouldn't say you are completely safe yet but all signs point to no autism or autism spectrum disorders. You will know it when you see it, lack of verbal communication, lack of eye contact, lack of social cues or emotionally inappropriate. I know it is hard not to stress but I think at this point there are NO signs that point to autism.

[trying43]

Its hard not to worry.  My oldest has severe adhd and mild ocd(he's 9 and my husband also has both as well but i know its different than autism) i am constantly monitoring my middle child who's 7 for any signs of it.(he has zero thank goodness)  you just have to try to focus on the positives, he's meeting his milestones so that's a great sign.  I know how you feel because its in the back of my mind will Lauren have the same issues.  I don't have any answers but I sympathize with what ur going through.