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rant!
Can i just say im soo sick of people trying to tell me how to raise my kid. And when i say no im going to raise her the way i want im suddenly the worst person around. She's not their child she's mine! Drives me crazy. I hate being told i have to give her juice at 6 months when i want to ebf. Or that i will only be able to breastfeed for a week. Or only handle cloth diapers for a week. Or because other people dont like me BFing and CDing that i should just not do it so they wont be offended. With her being a winter baby and me being anemic and gestational diabetic im worried about her immune system being weaker and when i made the rule that if people were sick to not come up to the hospital and to please not let kids get all in her face because they tend to carry more germs due to putting hands in their mouths and so on im suddenly ridiculous and might as well not let anyone up there. Its hard to enjoy my pregnancy when it seems like everyone is against what i want to do and because i dont want to do what they want me to do im the bad one. Really tears a person down and my daughter isnt even here yet...
I was sick as a kid too and i already know the doctors are worried about her. Theyve been talking about taking her early due to my GD. No one understands this is my first child and i refuse to spend months in the hospital due to others neglect
Girl dont mind those people and do you with your child. At the end of the day if the baby gets sick it's you who has to deal with it not them. Take all the precautions you believe are necessary you're the mother. Gluck
I totally get this my family is always telling me what I should or should not so with her and she is not even here yet... I want to scream sometimes. I be damned if i let them tell me how to raise the child I carried... the child I dreamt about since she 4.. the child doctors told me I couldn't have at age 16... I am also anemic and both my husband and I were sick as babies so I have made a rule that since it's you season only immeadiate family (i.e mom ,sisters, brothers etc) will be getting to see her for at least the first 2 or 3 months and my entire family went into uproar telling me that I'm a b**ch and such but I couldn't care less because if my baby gets sick all of them and all their "advice" will be home in their house and I will have to take care of her...
Exactly! His mom is always negative and i used to just sit back and be quiet but when it comes to my kid... no. Ill definitely speak up!
Going through very similar situations right now. My mother n law is like girl you ain't gonna be able to Breastfeed cause I couldn't. And me with my smart mouth just looked and said my ******* are not the same as yours just because you didn't know what you were doing doesn't mean I can't do it. And that just motivates me more to do if to prove her wrong. She is always negative. She said you ain't going to makd it to your dud date he's coming by Xmas. Hello Xmas is gone. Then she's like your not going to have jr. On jan 19 ( her mother birthday) and hello that's passed to. This woman really urked me when she said my baby gonna be eating whatever she eats. Girl bye my child will eat what I pack in his bag and if I find out he has anything differently somebody is gonna hear about it. Thus is my child and I'm not going to let someone else tell me how to raise him. Oh yea! She's lithe drink castor oil when you about to go in labor cause if you don't you will be in labor for 20+ hours. This woman is just ridiculous. Do what you feel is right and block ouf negative people and there comments. You're the mother if it feels right just do it.
You both have the right to refuse family to smoke in front of your baby or kiss your baby when they have a cold. I would just inform your family members that they r more then welcome to smoke or be sick in there own house but u will not expose your child to this environment which means that they either stop smoking when u r around or u won't come around or they r not welcome to smoke in your house.
Sickness during the first 3 months should be avoided if possible and family should respect that and not want to expose any new born to this either that is not nice.
I think u can be clear on these things and then just follow through and when they wonder why u r not coming over u can say I told u that if u were sick or smoked near my child I would not allow it.
Keep it short and sweet don't argue bc u won't get anywhere except angry.
They will see later that u meant what u said and they will either change or not
Sickness during the first 3 months should be avoided if possible and family should respect that and not want to expose any new born to this either that is not nice.
I think u can be clear on these things and then just follow through and when they wonder why u r not coming over u can say I told u that if u were sick or smoked near my child I would not allow it.
Keep it short and sweet don't argue bc u won't get anywhere except angry.
They will see later that u meant what u said and they will either change or not
Yeah i got told last night that my MIL doesnt care what i say she will smoke around the baby if she wants to. I about lost it! His mother does bot understand that my nother died of a lung cancer. Smoking is one thing that i absolutely despise! For good reasons too! Not to mention i got second hand smoke when i was younger! I myself dont have a good immune system as my mother had GD with me as well and my lungs werent right either. I know what can happen with children born to a GD mother. I was one and my sisters as well. And when your doctor sits down and tells you that you have an increased risk if stillborn you go into instant protective mode. I told that woman flat out she dont need to see her then
I feel your pain and I agree with you. Everyone is telling me what to do... it's so frustrating and overwhelming I threat to move out of my house away from everyone. I'm even tempted not to tell anyone when I go into labor, since day one of my pregnancy everyone around tells me don't eat that don't eat this, do this do that..I told my significant other I don't want anyone kissing the baby on her face after its born since people seem to be carrying cold sores and cold germs around me this winter season, I was told I was ridiculous and overprotective.. I feel I been through hell trying to conceive after 3yrs of trying to have someone get my baby sick after its born.. call me crazy call me whatever or blame on hormones but I'm willing to say and express anything to protect my child. No matter what I'm the one that God gave it to bring into this world. Only God can tell me what to do.
U r fine, this is something I think every women goes through. Just don't voice your opinion right now wait till she/ he is here and do what u feel is right. It doesn't matter what other people think and if u want to breastfeed then just do it, they will see u have this and u r doing what u want and feel is right. No sense in voicing your opinion if they r not going to listen anyways just ignore and enjoy the rest of pregnancy. U will do what is right for u and u will decide if u will change your opinion.
Your the mom so your the boss. I agree if people r sick they should respect u and your baby's immune system is not fully developed an should stay away. Same goes for kids wash hands and if in doubt then they should wait
Your the mom so your the boss. I agree if people r sick they should respect u and your baby's immune system is not fully developed an should stay away. Same goes for kids wash hands and if in doubt then they should wait
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