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Need to vent...
I need to vent for a second.. There was a mom who posted asking if she could have weed while preg.. She is 30 some weeks along. Now this irrited the uh godly **** outa me.. Why why why cant people give there kids a better chance to live than they give themselves. Selfish god damn drug addicts and alcoholics.. Uhh!!! These type of peoe should be forced to be fixed and childrent taken away. Horrible parenting HORRIBLE.
Very well explained @Leabellallee.
@anwhatin1 first off I am sorry to hear the struggles that you and your family face. Addiction is very hard and the people are very judged. But judging another's opinion on it does not make a situation any better. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and voice. And this topic is a very emotional one for many due to personal history etc.
Take my life for instance. I have had no involvement with drugs or been around drug users growing up. 4 years ago my husband and I decided to adopt since ttc was not working very well. We found an adoptive mom and everything seemed perfect until our handsome little boy was born. He was only 2 weeks early but weighed 4lbs 9oz, was malnourished, his lungs were stunted and he was going through withdrawl. We found out later on that she was using throughout her pregnancy. She was an addict. And my son will pay the price for it his entire life. We are mothers and our children should come first. I do mean it when I say I feel for your family but I think it is a different situation entirely. His alcoholism affects your children differently than my son was affected. Your children can run and jump and play sports. My son will never be able to. There has to be another way to protect children from these affects than to insult each other because of our opinions and biases.
@anwhatin1 first off I am sorry to hear the struggles that you and your family face. Addiction is very hard and the people are very judged. But judging another's opinion on it does not make a situation any better. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and voice. And this topic is a very emotional one for many due to personal history etc.
Take my life for instance. I have had no involvement with drugs or been around drug users growing up. 4 years ago my husband and I decided to adopt since ttc was not working very well. We found an adoptive mom and everything seemed perfect until our handsome little boy was born. He was only 2 weeks early but weighed 4lbs 9oz, was malnourished, his lungs were stunted and he was going through withdrawl. We found out later on that she was using throughout her pregnancy. She was an addict. And my son will pay the price for it his entire life. We are mothers and our children should come first. I do mean it when I say I feel for your family but I think it is a different situation entirely. His alcoholism affects your children differently than my son was affected. Your children can run and jump and play sports. My son will never be able to. There has to be another way to protect children from these affects than to insult each other because of our opinions and biases.
Thanks u leabellallee I agree 100% in what u have written. This would have been a great comment for this women to have read. It would have gave her something to think about and possibly changed her mind. The other people who were responding to her saying that it is okay could have benefitted from your comment as well.
I do not condone this behaviour in any way pregnant or not but I try not to draw judgement on people either.
Thank you for your great response.
I do not condone this behaviour in any way pregnant or not but I try not to draw judgement on people either.
Thank you for your great response.
If a pregnant mother is facing an addiction, whether it be drugs or alcohol, it is important she seek treatment for her addiction. Addiction is a very real thing, and like Anwhatin mentioned above, some people are predisposed to certain elements in life that make them more vulnerable to forming an addiction. However, Being more vulnerable to an addiction does not make it okay to use substances- especially when pregnant. An unborn baby is ingesting everything it's mom is. An unborn baby's organs and bodily functions that help the mother process substances (like the kidney when mom has alcohol) do not exist or are not fully functioning in an unborn baby. Which is why Fetal Alchol Syndrome occurs sometimes. When mom smokes weed and she becomes high, baby is also experiencing a high- but baby's body cannot handle the high as well as moms can. You wouldn't let a baby/toddler/child have substances- so why would it be okay to give a unborn baby substances in the womb when science proves a fetus ingests everything mom does? If you have an addiction there is help, and there is no shame in getting help, it's a lot better than trying to find an excuse to continue to use.
And just to add they forced fixed aboriginal by sending them to residential schools where they were tortured and abused and many died bc they were not like white people. In response to these types of people should be forced to be fixed. They were never broken till we came along and took everything from them and introduced them to drugs and alcohol.
What an awful comment.
What an awful comment.
I think u r completely wrong and what u havw written has completely affected me and my family. U clearly r not a godly person because u should be more understanding. Forgive and teach not preach which is all u r doing.
My husband is a alcoholic and he goes to rehab and tries really hard to improve his life everyday. Can u say that? He is the best father does everything for his children, I would not change him for anything and I respect him and all he goes through on a daily basis.
Do you want to know why he is an alcoholic? Probably not because u just judge everyone who is without knowing the reasons.
He is aboriginal and if u know there history u would understand, he also had alcoholism in his childhood, he was removed from his family and place in foster care at which point they abused him to the most extreme. He was separated from his brother and sisters etc.
U have no right to say the things u just said without being in there shoes for one minute. He has also lost his sister recently from someone who decided to viciously rape and beat her to death. Did he go out and drink and get drunk NO he went to meeting. Is he perfect No does he fall of the wagon yes.
U r only correct in the fact that this women should not be drinking or doing any drugs while pregnant. The fact that she is asking is something we should be open too and accept that she is obviously asking for advice and guidance and we can do that by being there to explain the affects. NOT CRITIZED EVERY DRUG ADDICT AND ALCOHOLIC OUT THERE. Read a book on addiction go to a AA meeting something.
My husband stays at home and takes care of our children sober I might add but still classed as an alcoholic as he does fall off once in awhile. Cooks clean and does everything for hs children. There are many father's who do jot do this.
Oh and just in case u think he doesn't work yes he does from home so his children are well taken care of.
U r not a godly person the day u wrote this. If someone took my children bc my husband is an alcoholic there would be a great in justice to his children. I have a 21 yr old aboriginal child who does not drink or do drugs but she was raised but she was raise by one. What do have to say about that.
Ugh awful. Watch what u say and educate yourself before discussing issues u obviously know nothing about.
Why don't u try and give support to people asking though questions. I don't condone drinking or drugs when pregnant or even around children but people smoke and eat junk food argue and do many other things that affect there children and we do not lump these people into a group and say their children should be taken away.
They r not great parents either but your not saying that and for that matter u don't sound like a great parent either if I go by what u wrote but I don't. I just think u are not educated nor have any experience or seen alcoholism because if u did u may not agree but u would be less critical.
Good luck with that and don't group people into catagories it is hurtful. Help people by explaining maybe after people wrote to this girl about how it affects her child she didn't do it. She got through the craving and side to herself it isn't worth it.
Bye is all I have to say to u
My husband is a alcoholic and he goes to rehab and tries really hard to improve his life everyday. Can u say that? He is the best father does everything for his children, I would not change him for anything and I respect him and all he goes through on a daily basis.
Do you want to know why he is an alcoholic? Probably not because u just judge everyone who is without knowing the reasons.
He is aboriginal and if u know there history u would understand, he also had alcoholism in his childhood, he was removed from his family and place in foster care at which point they abused him to the most extreme. He was separated from his brother and sisters etc.
U have no right to say the things u just said without being in there shoes for one minute. He has also lost his sister recently from someone who decided to viciously rape and beat her to death. Did he go out and drink and get drunk NO he went to meeting. Is he perfect No does he fall of the wagon yes.
U r only correct in the fact that this women should not be drinking or doing any drugs while pregnant. The fact that she is asking is something we should be open too and accept that she is obviously asking for advice and guidance and we can do that by being there to explain the affects. NOT CRITIZED EVERY DRUG ADDICT AND ALCOHOLIC OUT THERE. Read a book on addiction go to a AA meeting something.
My husband stays at home and takes care of our children sober I might add but still classed as an alcoholic as he does fall off once in awhile. Cooks clean and does everything for hs children. There are many father's who do jot do this.
Oh and just in case u think he doesn't work yes he does from home so his children are well taken care of.
U r not a godly person the day u wrote this. If someone took my children bc my husband is an alcoholic there would be a great in justice to his children. I have a 21 yr old aboriginal child who does not drink or do drugs but she was raised but she was raise by one. What do have to say about that.
Ugh awful. Watch what u say and educate yourself before discussing issues u obviously know nothing about.
Why don't u try and give support to people asking though questions. I don't condone drinking or drugs when pregnant or even around children but people smoke and eat junk food argue and do many other things that affect there children and we do not lump these people into a group and say their children should be taken away.
They r not great parents either but your not saying that and for that matter u don't sound like a great parent either if I go by what u wrote but I don't. I just think u are not educated nor have any experience or seen alcoholism because if u did u may not agree but u would be less critical.
Good luck with that and don't group people into catagories it is hurtful. Help people by explaining maybe after people wrote to this girl about how it affects her child she didn't do it. She got through the craving and side to herself it isn't worth it.
Bye is all I have to say to u
I feel the same. It is only 9 Months of my life to give my child the best head start I can. I would do anything and give up anything for my baby. Some women just don't realize what a privilege it is to be a mommy.
I know the feeling. Was shocked too. Chose not to reply because i could not have stayed polite. The first ones to reply were like "its ok, cigarettes are worst; its ok but not everyday". Shocking too...
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