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My brother was in an awful car accident due to a drunk driver. He is all the way in El Paso and I'm in Wv. They are taking him off life support.  I can't travel so I don't get the opportunity to say goodbye or tell him I love him one last time. They are bringing him home to our hometown in Maryland for his services after he passes and I don't think I will even be able to make it to that. It's a 5 hour drive & I'm almost 39 wks. So I'll either have had the baby by then or just be to pregnant to travel safely. I have an appointment and I almost want to ask my doctor if she can induce me bc I need to be there for my family, but even then I'm worried about traveling w my little one. Especially being so new. I'm sorry I'm sure this seems like I'm talking in circles. I'm just living inside my head these past couple days. I was so sure he'd pull through this.
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Omg! I am so sorry you and your family have to go through this at what should be a happy time. I would definitely discuss this with your doctor. I am so sorry for your loss.
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So sorry sweetie it's a tough decision I'm sure your family will understand if you can't be there and yeah like Torybaybee said definitely talk to your doctor about it and see what they suggest
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Thank you ladies.  He passed at 10:39 mt time 12:39 my time. I'm going to talk to my doctor tomorrow see what my options are and see what she recommends
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I am so sorry for your loss! My prayers and condolences to you and your family. I hope you're able to find a way to be with your family during this hard time! Stay strong
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I'm so sorry to hear this.  I pray you and your Dr find some kind of solution.
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Omg lysha i am so very sorry!! Please try and stay calm and not stress out baby. I know its easier said then done, but please try. Praying for you all.
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Heartbreaking story hate drunk drivers keep us updated with what the doctor says
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My thoughts and prayers are with you. I'm so sorry you are going through this!
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Thank you all. I went to the doctor today and asked her about travel and she said absolutely not it isn't safe for me or baby at this point. I couldn't bring myself to tell her why or discuss it any further. I think I may call her tomorrow.  I feel like it's easier to talk w a buffer in between rather than face to face
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You need to tell her why. She would more than likely reassess the situation knowing the circumstances. Would someone else be driving? If your pregnancy isn't high risk and someone else is driving you should be fine.
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My family has decided to wait until spring to have his memorial service. My parents and I live in the mountains so the weather will have broken by then. Also my younger sister is pregnant as well and so is his girlfriend so it is easier on them to wait also. This is a huge weight lifted off of me. Thank you ladies for your support <3
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I am so glad your family has decided to wait so that you (and the others) can be there to remember your brother. I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this, let alone when you'll be having a baby any day. Thoughts and prayers are with your family and especially his girlfriend and unborn child xo
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Thank you diana. It means a lot.
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I am so sorry for your loss. I'll be keeping you and your family in my prayers. It is really tough to say. Again I'm sorry.
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