OT: Need to vent about my RAGING HORMONES/DH!!

[Kimberlee_20]

A few days ago my mom asked DH to take her to a bar and drop her off and pick her up with her new "boyfriend", DH and I were BOTH ecstatic, finally she's moved on from my father, so he said yes, of course. Tonight DH calls me and tells me he's going fishing with his friend tonight, and I said "well you said you'd take mom tonight"..and he says "Oh sh!t I forgot, I'll be home a bit before I leave so we'll figure something out." Like he already has his mind made up that he's going, and I've already asked everyone if they could take my mom, and no one can. I can't because DH has my car, and I have to work all night. I'm extremely frustrated. All week he has been talking about this damn fishing trip, which was SUPPOSED to be on saturday, but all of the sudden it's going to be an all friday night thing. Maybe it's my jealousy mixed with my hormones but it makes me wonder why he's sooo anxious for it. I don't really know the guy he's going with and I don't know if he's an @$$ that doesn't care if my husband has a pregnant wife at home. Since I've been pregnant I always think the worst of EVERYTHING my husband does, I always think he's cheating on me or uninterested in me and I never was this way before I got pregnant. I don't want to tell him he can't go, because I'm not his mother, and I want him to have time to himself, he rarely gets to do anything between his work and trying to keep me occupied so I don't lose my mind, but I don't think it's right that he's just ditching his promise to my mother for fishing! Ughhh I'm so frustrated..! What do I do?!

[Kimberlee_20]

Yeah I finally got my hormones in check and asked my sister to take him so he could go with his friend, maybe we need a night apart! Thanks! :]

[Blackmetalrose]

*Hugs* I hear you on the hormone thing, I am constantly thinking the worst about my boyfriend, every text he gets, every time his phone rings i'm thinkin it's someone he's cheating on me with.  I was never ever like that before the pregnancy and it's driving me crazy that i'm so untrusting of him.  I think it's because i feel so unattractive and it makes me think that he feels the same way.  I'm very sorry that he's ditching his promise for fishing.  *hugs again* I'm definately sure he's not cheating on you ! :)

[Kimberlee_20]

AP - I have confronted him about it and he swears he's not cheating, but a while back he lied to me about chewing even when I told him I wouldn't care if he was, I just wanted to know - he STILL lied, and it makes me wonder if he's got to lie about stupid things, what else is he lieing about? He told me it was because he didn't want to disappoint me. Ugh, I don't know. I think I'm just going to sleeeeeeeep and ignore everything that is going on, because it is driving me absolutely nuts. Thank you for replying!

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm sorry you are going through this. It stinks when you can't pick your family! Seriously. For your mom Umm mine has been battling cancer and still manages to be nasty I mean rightfully so but why misdirect it on your pregnant only child who does nothing but help you. Even sick no matter what I do is never good enough or never will be. I distance myself for now. she is to much even for my dh to handle! I help her when she needs anything and I love her and if she wants to see the kids I bring them etc but as for 100% communication it's just not what it used to be. I'm done. As for your dh he should not go fishing mine wouldn't bad enough he leaves for the Army but he wouldn't dream of going off to fish etc. I hope he decides to stay and not go! I think for now there is alot of chaos that you don't need. I would keep a low profile. Stay to yourself. As for thinking he's cheating I have had the same thoughts and asked my dh and he has said no and I believe him. Have you confronted yours? It can be a hard road to walk being pg and something so beautiful can turn everything upside down. I'm telling you if it wasn't for therapy both marital and individual I would be nuts. It has been a great support system for me! I understand your frustrations. I truly do. Try to relax and worry about yourself and your baby! I hope everything works out and you feel better soon! I'm here if you need to talk!

AP