First time pregnant need advice

[Stormy16]

I was hoping you guys could give me some advice as to how you get thru the first few months of your pregnancy.... i mean like how do u stop worrying or thinking about it every second of the day?? I have been trying to get preggo for over 2 yrs.... was due for my period today but started taking those 5 day early pregnancy tests about 7 days ago.... they have all come back positive.....And i wonder why they came back positive so early... does that mean i ovulated much sooner then i thought i did??   im so scared that its too good to be true...... every cramp and every time i go to the bathroom im so scared..... I work in a medical clinic where we do Ultrasounds but i dont want to get scanned all the time cuz i know its early and i will freak myself out..... im 4 wks today and cant focus on anything else but this baby.... how do u guys get thru it without having a nervous breakdown??? I just want it so bad and the thought of having to start all over terrifies me...... thanks for taking the time to read this... congrats to all of you on your pregnancies!!!

[JoyRenee]

Cramping is from stretching ligaments supporting the uterus and from implantation.

[Tasia32]

Well I am not exactly sure why we cramp but I think it is because the uterus is growing in size. Now backaches I have been getting them since I was about four weeks but I only got it the days I worked so maybe it has something to do with being on our feet a lot, I don't know. Just wait for someone else to post a better answer then mines! Congrats on the pregnancy!

[Stormy16]

Thank you all for all your advice....you guys are so sweet and i love this site.... and Danielle yes its nice having an ultrasound machine at my work but its making me crazy too cuz everytime i walk by i want to get scanned.... but being that im just barely over 4 wks the tech said she would take a look at the end of the week so i will relax and stop bugging her lol. Another question for u guys.... is lower back pain and cramps normal??? in my cycle i would have started my period a few days ago.... so why do i still get cramps if im not gonna start??I know you said it was normal joyrenee just curious why im still getting them if im not gonna start.... just scares me and has me running to the bathroom all the time lol.... and just today my back has been killing me!! its too early to feel stuff like that right???

[danielleacor]

I wish i could give some helpful advice, but i worry every second too. It's a completly natural instict. As mothers we automatically become protectors even when our baby is in the womb. We can't help but to worry that everything is perfect. The key is to take a deep breath and enjoy that fact that youre finally pregnant. Be happy that you're going to experience something men will never relate to. It's our right as women, so be happy and relax.
Ps- i'm jealous you get to peak your your baby anytime. I wish i could do that, i'd be in there everyday checking things out. haha!
Congrats Mommy!!!

[JoyRenee]

Oh and cramps are normal!

[JoyRenee]

You're a mom now and you will worry until the day you leave this world! Congrats!!! It's not fun. I have two beautiful daughters and I've also had one miscarriage between their two births. When I got pregnant with my 2nd daughter I was mentally paralyzed with fear to the point I wouldn't bond with her. Sure, I enjoyed feeling her move, naming her, decorating the nursery, but I kept my emotions really distant until the day I held her in my arms (it was instantaneous love when I held her).

My point? I could've spent more time ENJOYING the pregnancy because the outcome would've been the exact same. No matter what happens, enjoy this time. You're PREGNANT! After trying for so long. Get excited!

[lookingforward34]

Hi there,

You will likely have some degree of worrying throughout. What I have found helpful so far (I'm 5 weeks, 4 days) is engaging in acitivites that I find enjoyable to help me redirect my energy towards something else (even if it's just for 15 minutes). For example, today I baked homemade scones, took a long walk, listened to some music, rented a movie and called an old friend who I had not spoken to in a while. Of course, I thought about this pregnancy the entire day...but getting myself busy with other things allowed me to put it at the back of my mind for a while rather than it being right at the front.

As is natural, the thoughts are going to come, so I would try to just welcome them, and focus on the positive as much as possible.

[Stormy16]

thx for the advice...yes it is my first and i just want it so bad. Im making myself crazy lol. I dont know if im starting to have morning sickness or if im just trying to convince myself that im not feeling well to confirm my pregnancy. But i have been feeling dizzy and lightheaded with a headache... i just want the days to go by fast... at least the next few wks so i can feel a lil more secure. I want to get excited and tell my family and friends.... but im so afraid of something going wrong that i dont even know when i will be able to tell them the news..... just wish i could think about something else to keep my mind occupied but its not happening lol

[Darkestlight]

Well to tell u the truth... and I dunno if this is your first baby, but the worrying will never end. lol. You just gotta think positive, and tell yourself that everything is ok. If you tested positive real soon then yes u ovulated earlier than expected which is fine.