miscarriage

[BonitaMichelle]

My friend and I are pregnant at the same time. I'm 12 weeks and she's 7.5 weeks. Last night she had a miscarriage.  I'm not sure how to act around her. We were both so excited to be pregnant. I'm not even comfortable talking about my pregnancy around her anymore. Any suggestions how I can mourn her pregnancy and still be happy for my pregnancy?

[BonitaMichelle]

I talked to my friend about the situation.  Mostly she talked. I feel extremely sad about the situation.  The miscarriage process can take a while. The doctor told her it should take a week.  The hardest part for her is waiting until it happens. Im there for her everyday. I only talk about my pregnancy if she asks me questions.

Thanks everyone for the advice

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The exact same thing happened to me and my best friend. She drove me to the hospital when I was having the miscarriage. Let her set the pace, but don't just keep your distance, the bridge might never gap again. She's your friend, she'll be happy for you no matter what, but honestly it may be hard for her to see you for a bit. Talk to her openly. She knows it's awkward, trust me.

[MelletteMommy2015]

I went through the same thing with my best friend, I posted a pic on fb then a week after I lost my baby. I felt so bad, I stayed off fb, I didnt talk to anyone (but my family and fiance) I just kept my distance and after a while it got easier and I could talk to my best friend again, she listened when I talked and she kept her distance until she knew I was ready to talk about it. Then we started to talk about her baby and I felt happy for her, of course I was jealous but not to thw point where I was mad. I got sad and cried a few times and talked to her about it and she understood how I felt she wanted to help me cope. Long story short, sorry it was so long haha just keep your distance until you think shes ready, check up on her if you think she might need support, ask her if she needs her space, people mourn in different ways just ask her how shes doing. Dont feel bad for still being pregnant, things happen for a reason. God has a plan for everyone. Stay strong for her, your baby and yourself.

[Charmainebutts]

This happened with me and my sister. I lost my baby at 12 weeks in March.  It was super hard to see my sister and not be mad. I wasn't mad at my sister but at the situation I was in... I wanted to share the same joy as her. I went through a lot of emotions, so don't be upset if she doesn't want to talk.

[rabeccarice]

Give her lots of hugs:( its berry sad to lose a baby even only that far along in a month or so her hormones will even out and I'm sure she will be happier for you

[Answeredprayer74]

Wow that's a difficult situation.first just be there for her during her grief..then in a week or so. I would talk to her...she's your friend tell her the truth...ask her what would be her desire...would it make her more comfortable to share in this experience with you or for you to chill out with the baby talk around her.  Either way don't you take it personal...she is dealing with a lot of emotions right now. She will eventually come around. Gods peace to you both.