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519260 tn?1244644534

im not nesting

I dont no if something is wrong with me
but im not nesting, my house is a mess, i cant be bothered doing anything all i want to do is sit in bed right now
my partner and i dont have the perfect relationship... i dont no if thats why im not getting all wierd and "nesting"
i sort of feel like a bad mum right now, the baby rooms a mess so is the rest of my house

is anyone els having anything like this on here?
everyone seems to have such pretty baby rooms etc and i just dont seem to have any motivation to do anything
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519260 tn?1244644534
Thanks for talking to me about it guys
i spoke to my friend about it on the phone last night she laughed her head of at me and said... u went MENTAL nesting in the start... now that i think of it i sold over 30 of our reptiles... all there enclosures, bought new lounges and stuff... i wanted the house to be cleaner and perfect back then it just seems like now i lost intrest

i dont feel like i need to disinfect everything or pick up piles of clothes or do the dishes every time theres a dish there etc, but i guess i have nested in the start when i wanted the house to be cleaner without the animals etc?

well i feel so much better after hearing ur opinions guys, i still feel a bit bad that i dont have the energy to be doing the dishes and washing etc at the moment but im sure once i have the bub ill be doing that all alot more?

thanks guys xxxx
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218701 tn?1248226255
Aww don't feel so bad. I agree with GermanBaby, not everyone goes through the "nesting" phase, I don't think I did either. I probably had one day where I felt I needed to get things in order and clean up a bit, other than that I was glad to get as much rest as possible before the baby arrived. Trust me, you'll be glad you got lots of rest once that little bundle's home. I've been sleeping 1 to 2 hours at a time for the past 10 days, and while I'm not complaining, I'm really glad I was a little sluggish and got lots of rest beforehand.  As far as your relationship goes, try and get closer to your partner right now because once the baby's here, it may cause a little extra strain on your relationship. My dh and I have noticed it's a lot easier to get frustrated with each other when our little girl isn't happy. Just try and take it one day at a time, everything will work itself out. Take care :-)
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657586 tn?1224587947
Not everyone experiences this nesting behavior. In addition, every woman that develops this nesting instinct approaches it differently - it ranges from mild to "irrational" behavior. Some start in the 5th month others start at 40 weeks and others not at all. I never really thought of it before until you mentioned not having it so I did a google search to see what it is all about. There are some interesting articles about what some women do - almost bordering on obsessive compulsive disorder in my opinion but reading the information will make you feel better.

Everyone experiences good and bad days. I am 38 weeks and it takes me all day to get the energy to clean the house. Do not worry so much about the baby room, babies really do not need so much to begin with. Love is the only thing that matters, well maybe a few diapers too. My baby room just has the basics and looks more like a guest room. I am not one who needs the most expensive baby stoller or accessories. Although this is our first baby, most everything we got was donated and they do not "match". (My husband seems to care more about this than I do - must be the German in him - I am just a laid back Canadian). Don't worry about what other people must have or what you should have for your baby - all it needs is you. Please do not "beat" yourself up so much.  I am sure once all our babies arrive this month our babies room will be in various stages of "mess".

I would try to talk with your partner about your fears and expectations.  A "perfect" relationship develops over time. But it can only happen when you both communicate in a positive manner.

Take care
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