advice with my newborn.

[Ashleigh529]

So it looks like sooo many mommies had their babies and most aren't first time moms. I just had my 3rd baby and ive never had my kids on a routine. I had my first at 18 and obviously wasn't ready for a kid so i didn't set schedules and routines. With my second i was so excited for him and my oldest was in kindergarten when he was born so i let him sleep with me and still wont fall asleep n his bed or at a bed time and refuses to take naps. He'll be 2 next month and im regretting not having him on a schedule. Now i have a 8 day old and i need advice. Im trying so hard to put him in his bassinet to sleep but im nursing and hes waking to eat every hour to hour n a half. I want this baby to sleep through the night eventually. My 2nd child didn't sleep all night till he was 15 months! Any advice on how to get a schedule started or when i start or anything?  I cannot have another kid in my bed and not sleeping thru the night till 15 months.

[VaniDavila]

Oh, my 2nd daughter also used me as her pacifier and it was so painful. My baby was starting to do that, but I broke him out of that habit. I think he tried it like 2 times. Maybe you can try using a different pacifier. I know my baby will only take a mam pacifier and if I try giving him something else he'll gag. Swaddling is difficult if not done right. By the time I know it, my son is also out, but I put him back. I mostly only do it at night when I want him to sleep longer.  I bought some very big swaddle blankets at babies r us and I really love them b/c they are huge and they cover him (he's long) and they are thin so I know he's not getting too hot.

[Ashleigh529]

Really? Im trying so hard to enforce the pacifier but he hates it. Im also trying to swaddle but maybe im doing it wrong bcus he gets so mad n breaks out. Hopefully i can get the pacifier to take. It was a life saver with my 6 yr old when she was a baby and my 2nd baby wouldn't take it and it was horrible bcus he pacifired on me.

[VaniDavila]

Oh, I'm going through that with my baby too! My nipples don't hurt anymore, but they felt like they were on fire at the beginning.  My doctor told me to give him "colic baby" or mylicon but he hasn't needed it so I haven't tried it.  Have you tried giving him a pacifier? I give one to my baby and it seems to give me a break on the feedings.  Do you swaddle him? I notice that sometimes my baby just wants me to hold him and rock him to sleep.  What I do is swaddle him and give him a pacifier and then when he falls asleep I put him in his crib. I noticed that when he's swaddled he sleeps longer through the night.

[Ashleigh529]

See my 8 day old is eating sooo much but hes gassy too. It seems at night hes nursing every hour and thats so hard to do because im exhausted. I even tried bottle feeding so id know for sure hes full and he still wanted to eat again n an hour or bit longer. Not to mention my nipples are suffering from all the feedings i just cant seem to get bubba full or satisfied.

[VaniDavila]

It is very difficult to set routines for little ones. I have a 20-month-old and she wakes up at night at the same time. Right now my mom is taking care of her and my mom is very strict and yet, she can't get her on a schedule. We have made improvements, she now sleeps on her own bed. She was at the point where she had to sleep in between my husband and I. So I started putting her in her bed and left a night light on. When she refused to fall asleep she would cry I would tell her, wait for mommy, I'm going to get you milk. By the time I was back she was asleep (I took a long time to get milk). Eventually you will get them to a routine. It is impossible to get a newborn on a routine. My baby wakes up at 11pm, 2-3 am, 6 am. I think once you get them to sleep through the night they will be easier to get on a schedule. My 7-year-old has to be in bed by 8:30pm when she goes to school and she is aware of that so she follows the schedule. It's difficult, but it takes patience and time to be able to get them all on the same schedule.