Thoughts on when you spill the beans?

[IdahoNikki]

When do you plan to tell friends and family that you are expecting? I had an early miscarriage years ago and had only told my mom. I don't know if it made it easier or harder having not told because nobody knew what I was suffering through. This time since we've seen a heartbeat (never did before) we are trying to decide if we want to wait until 12 weeks to announce. And I'm talking friends family co-workers only. . not like a full on Facebook type event lol. Just wanting your perspectives. Thanks ladies!

[Musto5]

My husband is too excited to keep his mouth shut so everyone knows ha:) Im 6w 5d! We have had two ultra sounds one last week when all we could see was the sack and one yesterday. The baby has progressed to where it should be and has a healthy heart beat!

[lucky8s]

I'm actually planning to tell everyone on Christmas I m scare to tell anyone right now. . I'm actually 7 weeks 1day my husband and I know just keeping it a secret as long as I can . It's hard to announce baby #6 I'm 30 yrs old still shock a baby is a blessing but I just don't want to hear bad comments from family . Couse I'm 30 with 5 kid's and one on the way I have a happy but busy life and I like it but my family don't. Financially we are good. Don't ask for nothing me and my husband provide for our kids .. sorry to long just this is the only place that I can express my self..

[nightcarer]

Im 7 an a half weeks and iv told close family and staff members I work with as im a health care assistant on night's.

[DemonaAsh13]

We're waiting until at least past the first trimester if at all possible. We lost one right after we found out last October and now (happily) we're expecting twins. Given extra risks with multiples, we're holding off as long as possible with telling anyone other than very close friends.

[strongmomma14]

I have told all of my coworkers. I workbin a small salon and by all the mood swings, throwing up and hot flashes they would have guessed.  My family found out at my cousin's wedding early Oct bc I wouldnt even have a glass of wine...very unlike me. Lol. I have some clients that know bc they asked. I figure if, God forbid, something goes bad they will find out anyways. I do like the idea of not telling anyone you wouldn't feel comfortable telling them if something goes wrong. Also, a good chunk of my friends know...one I'm afraid to tell bc she miscarried earlier in the week that I found out I was pregnant!

[JuneBebe]

I'm 9 weeks with my 1st and had planned on telling everyone after thanksgiving too.  But the best laid plans of mice and women....   I'm so sick everyone already knows anyways.  Some of my students have even guessed.  So I'm just going to hope for the best and if not I'll deal with it somehow.  I have to say though it was so hard not telling everyone when you're excited that my being so obviously sick was a relief when everyone figured it out at work.

I wish you ladies luck and an enjoyable time when those closest to you find out.

[IdahoNikki]

Thank you all for the feedback! I like only telling people the good news that you would feel comfortable telling any bad news. I've only told close family. My sister in law who's practically my best friend told her kids and that scares me some but that was her choice I guess. Congrats ladies by the way. Going to take ANOTHER nap lol :)

[wonko]

I'm 8w5d today.  I've also seen the hearbeat on ultrasound, 3 times now.  My next check up is Thursday.

[Brittany12385]

Wonko, how far along are you?

[wonko]

This is my first pregnancy, so I can't speak from experience.  My mother-in-law and one co-worker friend knows, and that's it.  I felt I had to have one friend know so that I'd have support if something bad happened.

I'm following the advice I hear/read the most on this topic:  Only tell people your good news if you would also be comfortable sharing any bad news with them.

The wait feels very slow but it gets easier, I think, especially with the great news that you have of seeing the heartbeat!

[Brittany12385]

Ill be 10w this sunday and we are waiting until I'm 13weeks. I miscarried this past june and before that we had told my mom, my 6 year old son & my boyfriends parents on father's day. I'm pregnant with my second but my boyfriends first. A week after telling his parents I lost the baby and he was given a snide comment from his mother "see this is why you wait until the second trimester to say anything"  which was a slap in the face and hurt my feelings. Ill be 13 weeks the sunday before thanksgiving and will have a doc apt just 4 days before I'm 13 weeks, so I hope to get an ultrasound and the news that everything is ok. But yea I'm totally waiting as long as I can stand it. Sorry for my rambling

[alp92981]

Congrats!  I will be nine weeks tomorrow and i have told my closest friends ...right away.. .i figured if anything was to go wrong i would need them for support ... everything feels like it is going well and i am makeing announcement cards for thanksgiving.