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[SecondTimeMom15]

I've posted on here a few times recently about how large my baby boy is measuring. He measured over 99th percentile at 34 weeks, estimated to weight 7 lbs 6 oz. They said he was the size of an average 39 week old fetus measurement. Obviously, this has me a little panicked, and also a little worried about his health is he is really so big. But on to the topic of the post...

Due to his size, my doctor said they may suggest a c-section at 39 weeks because he may simply be too big to delivery vaginally (yes, I know some of you are anti hanving a baby early due to sozd, but please bear in mind my baby is measuring exceptionally above average, not just marginally). Well, then they called me back and said I will have an extensive ultrasound done at 37 weeks, at which point I may be suggested for relatively immediate induction instead. That way, I still have a chance to delivery him vaginally.

Well, I all of this questioning how my baby will arrive is freaking me out some. It's not the natural way I envisioned for me and him. Its also making me worry that my doctors seem a little concerned, like they expect me to be the next mom on the news with a mega baby or something.

On top of that, now, at 35 weeks, I'm having some early signs of labor. Have had diarrhea for several days, thick slimy mucous, very sharp shooting pains in my cervix, increasing Braxton hicks, swelling feet, outbreak of acne, sore lower back, you name it! So, now I'm worrying he is coming on his own super early before I have everything done!

I guess I'm just feeling extremely overwhelmed, worried, nervous, downright scared, and a little lost. Last time, everything went so smoothly. This time, it's totally in the air and I feel unprepared. And with doctors throwing around words like "macrosomia baby" and "well, there have been studies", it makes me realize they are all out of their element with a baby as big as mine. They told me that even though his weight estimate could be off some, his measurement sizes in comparison to other babies at this stage, and babies at 39 weeks, he is off of the scale. Because he is over the 99th percentile, they don't even have a scale to measure him on. Like, HELLO? Someone please tell me what that means before I panic?!?!?!

I'm sorry this is an unusually long post. I just needed to get my fears out to someone other than my husband. He is supportive, but he is also just excited fantasizing about his future 7 and a half foot tall son. Meanwhile, I'm freaking out.

[swindle11]

Take into consideration that an ultrasound isnt a 100% accurate on due dates and weight. Your due date can be 2 weeks early or 2 weeks late and because of that its a possiblity that you could be 37 weeks instead of 35. And as far as the weight...i have a friend who her doctor kept telling her that her little girl was going to be an 8 or 9 pound baby by looking at the ultrasounds, she ended up have a planned all natural home birth and her baby come out weighing 6lbs and 7 ounces....the ultrasounds can be way off. Dont stress too much about it if you want a natural birth then try to postpone it as long as possible and give him the chance to make his apperance. As far as him being too big there is no such thing unless you have an underlying cause making him huge. He will only get as big as your body can handle. You have to have faith in your body...it knows exactly what its doing

[rivaswifey]

Remember that the weight is just a guestimation I've had friends where Dr's said there baby was going tk be 10+ ibs an comes out 7 1/2 ibs. They do there best but you never know until baby is here. If your Dr's suggest possible delivery early at 37 weeks your baby already full term an you can still go through all the natural things of child birth such as your water breaking an pushing your boy out. You just have a little pitocin to help it start a little sooner bit still the same thing. I was scared to when I had to have my 3rd baby induced but in all reality it ended up being the same as the first 2 I had naturally. Everything will be ok.

[twinmommy3]

I am going through something similar at 36+6 weeks I had the dr do another ultrasound and she was measuring 39+4, Ive been freaking out I had twins vaginally with no problems and now with this single baby she is huge and measuring so much bigger.I asked the dr if he would induce earlier he said no he will just have to do a csection at 39 weeks if she is too big. I turn 39 weeks next Tuesday and i cant wait. I joke around and tell hubby she is just going to walk right out since she is so big lol. All I can do is try to remain positive. I havent stopped walking hoping my water will break before than!

[SecondTimeMom15]

Thank you guys for responding! I'm trying to cope with all of my emotions, which obviously isn't made any better by pregnancy hormones! I suppose the whole unpredictability of everything is what scares me the most. Everything from how will my baby be arriving, when will he arrive, what will his health be like? I know I shouldn't, but I've Googled several stories about large babies and found that a lot of them have breathing problems as if they were underdeveloped like premature babies! When my doctors say they expect him to be over 11 or 12 lbs if we go the full 40 weeks, I'm wondering if letting a baby get past a certain size is safe!

Well, I've learned to stay away from Google, and take one day at a time. The more I get done to prepare for him, the more calm I start to feel.

Not too much longer now!

[angeloflemons406680]

Relax. If baby comes early, all will be fine. They know what they need to do in order to help baby thrive. And keep in mind they are estimating baby's size. My son was guessed at just over 9lbs at 39 weeks, so they INDUCED me at 39+5. Thomas was 8-6. Born happy, healthy, and VAGINALLY. Discuss induction with your doctor. God bless you and keep you safe.

[noe17]

I'm sorry to hear such is the case. But so far you're both OK in terms of health, let the doctors guide u, even if they are a bit lost, they'll know what's best. And if you're not convinced, get a second opinion. And yes, try to relax. I know it's not easy, but worrying won't get u anywhere. Wish u all the best.

[sanja25]

I would just tell you to relax and do what they say
No doctor wants to risk on hurting the mom or the baby
My doc told me tbat if he thinks that there is just a little bit of the risk of hurting myself or the baby he is doing the c section
And i m good with it
As long as we are both good and healthy
If you are worried that he is coming sooner,make ypur husband help ypu with finishing all the stuff for the baby if you are not ready
Everything will be fine
But if they say you need a c section go for it
Dont risk
My sister in law refused one
They told her she is having a big baby too,and that she is just not made to deliver that big baby,and they were right
She delivered him but his shoulders got stuck and they had to force him out,so he ended up with his nerves pinched
Just listen to the doctors
Ask them all the questions you have