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I'm 36 weeks, and some people in my life have been asking me when my baby shower is, but my son is only 18 months old. We still have everything we need (except for sleeping arrangements and a few other small things) and we didn't find out the gender this time.

I personally don't go to "repeat" baby showers because if the parents couldn't afford another baby, they shouldn't have "done the dance..."

Do you ladies agree?
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Personally I agree 100%. But not everyone sees it that way. We had a gender reveal party to celebrate baby. No gifts. Just a nice dinner and a reveal cake. It was so fun. And a nice way to welcome the baby ;)
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I don't agree.. I feel like a baby shower is more of a celebration of your child not just ppl asking for a hand out.. Or if they have a baby that's years apart and they gave all the stuff away I just don't agree but I don't disagree with your reasons either I feel it's your choice
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Honestly I hated having a baby shower with my first! But thats just me. I am not of a private person and have always felt my children aren't really anyone else's business
if you have everything you should be ok!
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I agree & It's Ur decision. I'm in the same boat. I have a 19 month old lil girl & am having a boy in 30- days. Yes every baby is special but it's just one more thing to do, for me it just adds unnecessary stress this time. I want to spend extra time w my 2 other children before the dinamics of the family change. I prefer just a day w my own lil family-swimming, going for a walk, to the park etc. My girlfriend who was going to through my shower is going to help out pitching in on the double stroller I want (really it's the only thing I need & it's $$$) instead of spending extra money & time on the shower (she's prego too-this is her 2nd baby she isn't doing a shower either). I don't want all the fuss of the baby shower & it's hard finding time being prego w a19 mo & a 7 yo (who has a lot going on because it's the end of the school yr-he has sports etc).
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I don't really feel like having a baby shower is asking for a hand out.. First or second child. I feel like its a way for your family to celebrate and give you things so you can save your money for maternity leave, or for some more expensive things your baby may need.  Not saying its right or wrong to have a baby shower your second time around, I do not think I'd personally have a baby shower for a second child, but I don't ever feel a baby shower is because you cannot afford things for your child.
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Im having my fourth but its with my second hubby. I didn't want to have a baby shower except that his family decided for me that i was. I dont feel its necessary but its a different family and our first together so im going a long with it lol
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I think there's nothing wrong with a second shower so long as the parents are not asking/expecting lots of gifts. But I think that showers are (or should be) about celebrating baby not about gifts.
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Where I live a lot if people will have a diapers and wipes shower when having another child...
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I completely agree! My oldest daughter will be 2 in July & I feel like it's tacky to have a repeat baby shower.
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My husband and I are doing a co ed "diaper shower". The only reason we're having one this time is because we're having a boy this time. First was a girl. If we were having another girl we wouldnt be having one. But since its a boy its expected. Put right on the invite gifts not necessary. Since people do what they want I also put a small list of gift ideas. That way with luck I'll get things that I can use. Like diapers. Lol
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I kind of agree.  I get that each baby is a celebration of their own but i think it is alot to ask people to buy more gifts.  My daughter will be 3 and we are expecting a boy in about 3 weeks and i did not want a second shower however my boss threw one anyways.  I apreciated it but it makes me uncomfortable.  She kept bugging me to register but i refused to do that.  If people wanted to buy stuff, ok but i certainly wasnt going to pick it out.  
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