How cool/frustrating is this?

[Boon5615]

I am 30 years old and my baby girl will be born the week of my 31st birthday if everything goes well.
I have been dating my husband since 2003 and we have been hoping for a baby almost as long.
This week I get a phone call from my 22 year old sister to say that she is about 6 weeks pregnant with her boyfriend of 2 months child.
So next week I will have 7 weeks to go and she will be 7 week prego.
My frustration come in with the fact that attention that was given to my baby and the excitement regarding her birth has now shifted to my sister. Am I wrong to feel a little annoyed about this situation?

[Zally07]

My sister and I are both pregnant I am 29 weeks and she is 15 weeks pregnant at first I was a little upset thinking that this may take attention from my baby but I decided to make the best of it and enjoy Going through pregnancy with my sister.  It's fun I have someone to talk to that understands what I'm going through we can look at baby things together we are even doing a pregnancy photo shoot.  The best part is that our babies will from up together. Just look at the positives instead of the negatives.  

[EmmaOmega]

i had something similar with a cousin, im settled in a relationship of many years, we own our own home and are getting it extended to accomodate the children we were planning and trying for desperately...financially stable and wanting a sibling for my son so much, after months of trying and nothing happening my cousin announces pregnancy in a 6week-ish long relationship with no house or money, total accident and bragging about it! i cried in frustration about why it happened for them but not us! i am pregnant now and due in June..my cousin is due this weekend so it worked out fairly close after all..but still annoys me so much when i think about both our situations! they are struggling now and relying on families help and settlig into a tiny flat together in the time they should still be just getting to know each other!

[Boon5615]

Don't get me wrong. I want her to have the attention her pregnancy deserves, but it has been proven over and over that no matter what I do, everything she does will always be more important. My husband is a wonderful and caring man and has gone out of his way over the years to do things for my mom, but all she ever talks about is my sister latest triumphs and how great they are.
What makes it worse the fact that I know this was done out of jealousy.
I just wanted my child to have all the attention for a little while as I knew it would not last.

[schenner2]

My younger sister 25 at the time got pregnant accidently and called me freaking out about how she wasnt ready. She wasnt sure ever wanted kids.  Blah blah. Blah. It was the same day i had gotten my period again after actively trying for a baby.  I was so hurt and had to hear about her pregnancy from everyone for 3 months before i fell pregnant as well!  Dont get me wrong i was very excited to be an Auntie! It was just hard hearing her woahs in the beginning and everyone talking about it. Once i was pregnant we ranted together! Long story short i have 2 sisters and within a 9 month span we each had a baby girl and now they are super close in age! Wouldnt have it any other way.  I am expecting a boy june 3rd and wish one of my sister would get pregnant already!  

[happiMom87]

I would say be glad your baby will have a cousin so close in age to him or her. Idk I'm pregnant along with 2 of my closest cousins and I'm so excited can't wait to see all the babies.

[diachong]

No you're not wrong, I understand your frustration. Two of my boyfriends cousins are pregnant at the same time as me, one is due a week before me, and all his family talks about is the two new babies that will be in their family, but my baby is part of their family too. I really don't get it because I'm really close to his family but I try not to let it get to me.

[cwilson87]

I'm 27, married, and my baby was planned. My little sister (15) got pregnant and had her baby last November.  Mine is due this June. I thought maybe the attention might shift to me now that her pregnancy is over... I was very wrong. So, I understand the feeling.

[JennMulk]

I'm in the exact same situation and worry about the same thing. Only, it's my sister in law and it was completely on purpose. Not only did she get married on our wedding date, the second we found out we were pregnant all she talked about was getting pregnant too. She's telling everyone it was an accident but must have forgotten that she told us she stopped taking her birth control the second we accounced our pregnancy. My poor brother was completely blindsided. They haven't even been married a year and they're still extremely young and immature. We've been married going on 7 years and are prepared for a child both financially and emotionally. They most definitely are not and they will be relying on my mother for financial stability. Taking her time and assets away from our child, which we don't need but would be nice if she could be spoiled a little bit being the first grandbaby. It's makes me sad for her. It's flattering that my sister in law wants what I have but it feels like I am not aloud to have just one thing that I don't share with her. It's completely frustrating but there's absolutely nothing to be done about it. She's pregnant. All you can do is try to focus on the positive. At least our babies will get to grow up together.

[cef1990]

I disagree that you should feel jealous of the attention she will be getting, after all every baby is a blessing and should be celebrated, she shouldn't have any more or less attention than you.
Have you thought there may be a possibility that she's worrying that she may not get the same about on attention throughout her pregnancy because your baby will be born and that will be the excitement?
I'm sure you will both be given the love and attention that you both need and deserve at the right time.
And just think how lovely it will be to see your niece or nephew grow up with your daughter.

[firstmommy95]

No, I would feel the same if it happened to me. My sister had a pregnancy scare and when she told me I got furious because my baby and i were suppose to be the center of attention.. I totally feel you!