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anybody else butting heads with the baby's father?

I feel like my husband has changed since the birth of our child. I feel like he is VERY distant. He says its me that im very emotional. I just dont know anymore
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The truth is U both changed... Ur family dynamics are so different w a newborn. I feel my hubby gets overwhelmed when the babies are newborn-they're so small, I nurse so he can't help there, he gets nervous when they spit up, he has a hard time changing newborn diapers (he changes the diapers all the time when the kids are older), so on. I think my hubby backs off a lil when the newborns are 1st home. Plus Part of it is Ur body is still going through a surge of hormones, changing, plus lack of sleep for both of U. I just had my 3rd baby (it was much harder w my 1st, W the 1st it was so overwhelming & I had the baby blues). Now we've learned we have good days (when we get better sleep)& bad days. I had a csection so my hubby takes off w the older kids to the park, pool, stores or in the play room. It's hard bcuz he's always gone but he needs to keep the older 2 busy & I'm very greatful they're having fun but it's hard & somedays I feel alone. Pay attention to Ur emotions if Ur feeling really overwhelmed, emotional it could be baby blue/postpartum depression-talk to Ur dr ASAP if u feel this way. Take a deep breath & a nap if U can. Sleep makes everything better... Good luck
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Same here.  It's normal  especially since we are sleep deprived and cranky. My hubby is more snappy too. I called him out on it. We get frustrated at times. Our baby is demanding
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Ohhh same here! Baby is a constant demand. He keeps us both up all the time. My partner works third shift and when he gets home he sleeps all day. I awlays have to baby. My son is a month old and i swear my partner changed his diaper twice! It does get pretty over whelming
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Babies are stressful on relationships!  My little guy is almost 2 months old and i think daddy has changed 10 diapers! Hubby works nights or afternoons so i am basically on my own most of the time! We have a toddler too so i am very busy! I try to just concentrate on my kids.  Let the laundry and dishes pile up! Since i am exclusively breastfeeding daddy uses the excuse that "he is hungry and i cant help him with that"  it is frustrating. It gets a little better as baby gets older!
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Lets hope it does! Its a pain doing everything on our own. I got up 5 times last night without the dad helping out. Yea he works nights but when its a weekened....still no help!
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Did it get better yet?
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Me! I hate that he says f our daughter when she won't stop crying. How he gets mad at her because she cries and makes baby noises.
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