can I tell my Dr no??

[emmalea92]

I've had high blood pressure almost the whole time, not preclamsia though, she said she wants to deliver at 37 weeks but I think that's too early. Baby is fine, i am fine so why do it so early?

I was induced with my son at 37 weeks and didn't dilate at all for 26 hours, ended up having a c-section and wasn't able to breastfeed because my milk never came in. My body was not ready for baby to come out at that point so I think it's still going to be too early this time too.

We've talked about delivery at 39 weeks a month or so ago and I think that would be ok,  plus it's right on daddy's birthday.

Can I tell her that I don't to/not going to deliver that early if I it's not absolutely necessary (which at this point it's not)?? Will she have to comply with my wishes for at least the 39 week mark??

[emmalea92]

Thank you ladies so much!! She only wants to deliver early is because of high blood pressure,it's only slightly higher than what she'd want it to be, not several or anything else.  she has sent me to a second level sonogram and baby is perfectly fine, healthy and very active,  I'm not in any distress or anything either. I'd really like to try to breast feed too since I couldn't with my first and I'm worried if it's too early I won't be able to

[mw89]

You can say no even if your baby is in danger. Like mogbog said.
I would honestly feel the same way you do. If you feel comfortable with how things are going tell the doctor. And if the doctor sneaks in something you didnt want during delivery say something and do something.
I wish I would had with my first child. I was medically assaulted and it took forever to help me cope with it I would never wish that on anyone else. Just stand up for yourself!
Good luck

[siriuslydi]

My former doctor had wanted to induce me at 38 weeks for no other reason other then I just turned 40. When I said no she seem to get irritated. Finally she said well if you're not willing to be induced we will have to watch the baby more closely and get weekly ultrasounds. I'm totally fine with that. I know a lot of women don't have any issues with being induced but I've heard a lot of women who have had harder labors and less productive labors and ended up with a C-section. I really don't want a C-section and I think being introduced is much harder on your body because your body is not ready. It is one thing if there is an emergency or something is detected that means you should be induced early , but it is another just to avoid the possibility of anything possibly happening.

[Mogpog]

Legally you can say no even if there are risks to you or baby you will just have to sign something saying you understand the risks and are saying no. You have to consent to the drugs and procedures involved so they cannot make you do them.  If you're really feeling pressured and aren't sure what to do, I would ask to speak with a patient advocate. The hospital should have them and their job is to be a spokesman for the patients, and I am pretty sure it is free to talk to them unlike a doula.

[noe17]

Sure you can say no when no risks are involved. To ease your mind, is there a chance u can also get a second opinion? Consult another doctor?
I changed my OB at 5 months because I didn't like how she treated me. They are there to help u, not to make u feel worse or to step on u. Good luck!

[lurooney]

I understand you not wanting to get induced if you had a bad experience already...tell your doctor your concerns and you really want to aim for 39 weeks,unless she feels its absolutely necessary to induce before then and there is a high risk to you and your baby I would refuse too but if risks are high I would go with the doctor

[swindle11]

You always have the right to say no. If she tries to argue you can get a doula to help you, they know all the legal aspects and can ensure that your not going to be pressured into anything you dont want. Unless there is danger to the baby she cant make you do anything. I would deffinatly stand up to her because there has been alot of studies showing that the longer your baby is inside you the more developed they become and healthier. I believe they are actually trying to make it a thing now that 40 weeks is full term instead of 37 and 44 weeks is as long as they should stay instead of 42.