weight issues (other peoples comments and their affects)

[holidaywhoopsie]

hiya ladies,

the subject line covers my question/comment/rant/tears/end of my tether!

how have you all dealt with, if you have had to deal with it at all (i hope you dont have to) with other peoples (both relatives/close friends/working acquaintances/strangers) comments about your weight gain/baby bump size/or size in general?

A lot of these people besides my partner know what hell i have been through and that the morning sickness has only just abated/hospitalised for having a anaphalatic reaction to a food item/ anti biotics twice for chest infections and even though i came into the pregnancy a bit chunky i have only gained 2.5 kg (5.5 pounds) and yet i have people asking me when im due because i am huge ;( and then showing me a picture of someone else due in a month and saying how tiny she is....
or as someone who had to move out of a full lift so i could get out said - a wide load ;(  

i just want to go home, crawl into bed and cry for the remaining 12 weeks....

if you have any useful comments/suggestions/throwbacks/allowing me to punch people in the face - i would appreciate it.  x

[melib1313]

I have the exact same problem, i end up crying in bed when i get home from work...

[Kryara]

I wish women were not put under so much pressure regarding weight while pregnant. I lost a lot of weight at the beginning of my pregnancy because of hyperemesis and while I have gained 6lbs I am still under my healthy pre pregnancy weight by nearly a stone. I was worrying about it for ages and feeling like a failure, but luckily here in Northern Ireland they only weigh us at booking in and not after because as long as baby is on target then they are happy. My little girl is bouncing about happy as could be and is 2 1/2 lbs as of yesterday (27+4) so she is doing well. We are pregnant and NO ONE should be able to make disparaging comments about our weight or lack of when pregnant. Our bodies do not become public property when pregnant so personally I think scre₩ them!If your body put the weight on then it was for a reason and that is for our babies and for all you know ypu could lose a massive amount of water in the weeks after you deliver. Same with the women who haven't put a lot on, there is a reason and as long as the baby is getting what it needs then we should all ignore those eejits.

[holidaywhoopsie]

eeyorefan215 - if the ob says baby and you are fine id be happy with that!!! it must be so distressing hearing that from your hubby and inlaws... like the ladies above have said its your pregnancy (as much as you may /may not want you hubby tobe apart of it) its your body, your changes! i'm slowly starting to embrace it - slowly !

it really upsets me that everyone has an opinion about the weight we are carrying and not give a flyer about the mom or babys healthy!!! surely those two aspects of the pregnancy (and a smooth birth) are more important then weight issues.

[eeyorefan215]

I'm sorry you're going through that. I'm getting the opposite criticism. I'm 24 weeks and I've gained only 4 pounds the entire pregnancy. I'm eating healthy and exercising regularly and my OB thinks I'm healthy, but my husband and his family are upset that I haven't gained more.

[holidaywhoopsie]

im so sorry that you have been through this as well!!! i would think people / society would be more concerned about how the baby is doing then how the mum to be is carrying / weighing. my dad said to me yesterday after i mentioned that i have only started gaining weight "oh thats good. you dont want to become fat and nasty looking. and when the baby is born you should try losing an additional 10kgs" #gasp. i nearly died on the phone!!!!

its just ridiculous! there's been such a shift in society for the typical "perfect 10 /size zero" look even in pregnancy that i hope that i can instill the mindset of you are perfect just the way you are created to my little girl!

lovelies - spending sometime alone and "licking my wounds" so to speak - all i have to say is we have been blessed with a little ever growing baby(ies) in our belly - even if was a holiday whoopsie! we are so lucky. but i am still thinking of a good come back line for stupid weight remarks :)

blessing to you all. the weeks are rapidly dwindling :) enjoy them!!!

[bridgesa]

I had a lady at a food place notice how much in pain I looked and she made the comment that she understood and at least I don't have much longer... I'm sure June 13 and that was 2 months ago. An older lady at church even had the nerve to call me fatso and never thought twice about it.

[ladyhawk83]

i didnt start off chunky, but i'm getting there now. i'll be 24 weeks tomorrow and have already gained 20lbs. i was carrying small at first and then in the last few weeks i just exploded. i eat healthy, i excersize... i avoid temptation where i can without going nuts. i check my calories. i guess i just carry heavy. i see strangers smerking at me. my friends and family have commented on my ever growing backside. i'm nervous to see how this will develop over the rest of the pregnancy. i hate when people comment on my figure... it feels like everything is completely out of my control. what cheers me up is when i have time by myself and i unwrap my bump, put my hands on my bare belly, and have a little quiet time with my baby. makes me feel like i'm not in this alone. :)

[hb2015]

Aww hun I'm sorry to hear sometimes people are just flat mean.. which is annoying just know you are carrying a wonderful bundle of joy and hold your head high :) hope you have a blessed rest of pregnancy

[Pookey555]

Do not let there words get to you. You are pregnant hunny. For them to make fun of your weight is low. Just know your baby is protected and safe. Have a safe and Blessed pregnancy. God is by your side and your babys :)

[JaeMama]

I Was really heavy when I got pregnant. So everyone thought I was much farther along than I was when I brought up that I was pregnant. Now that I'm actually showing, people don't give me the weird looks any more as if being pregnant is why I'm heavy instead of being heavy and happening to be pregnant.

[holidaywhoopsie]

thank you lovelies! maybe it's a london thing and people are just vicious!
will keep my chin up and even if i am a bit chunky thats ok - it protected baby in this mornings episode of - fall down in front of everyone. :)
thank you and blessings to both of you

[boeck0425]

I am sorry. I dont have that problem. But I do feel for you. just know everyone carries differently. Keep your head up soon you will have your baby in your arms.

[mommalombardi]

Oh hunny I understand completely!  I have actually eating healthy and exercised the entire time and am almost up 30 lbs at 27 weeks. Belive it or not I look smaller than I did with my first though so I don't get it. I still hear, "wow your getting really round" the first person that told me that I told them they were getting a little pudgy..they have not said a word since! Lol I know it's mean and hormonal but it felt good. I think she told people because after that no one says a word. Every body is different, every belly grows different.  Just because someone looks smaller than you does not mean a thing. When people start saying that tell them you really don't care and just walk away. And the farther along you get the more people will say things so just learn to tune it out!  You are beautiful! !