no connection

[dd2015]

ok I know they say it's normal to sometimes not feel a connection with your baby but I feel like a horrible mother. this is my third child and with my last after he was born I had very bad pod and felt separated at first. anyone have any advice to help with this. I only have 87 days left. I feel connected when he kicks or moves but other than that it's not really there. please no bashing

[mw89]

It doesnt make you a bad mom!
This is my third and I have only completely felt connected to my First. And her and I have a very strong relationship now. You should connect once he gets here. If not dont be afraid to tell your provider

[AngePants]

It will be ok. I'm there too. With my first I felt very connected until I had her, than I was just like "cool, now can I leave?" There was nothing, my husband was all about her but it took maybe 2 days before I felt closer to her. With this one I don't feel a real connection. I haven't the entire pregnacy. I'm not all that worried though because when he gets here I know it will change, just like it did with my oldest. Things take time. Don't worry, you're not alone.

[dd2015]

I'm hoping. I'm glad I'm not the only one

[WillzMom]

This is my second. I forget she's there until she kicks. Often times it scares me. I felt super connected to my first while I was pregnant. I sang to him all the time and made little videos for him talking about how excited or sick I was at the moment. However, once I had him I didn't connect until maybe 2 weeks. I didn't even call him my baby, I called him my buddy. My mom thought that was so cute. I didn't dare tell her it was because I couldn't connect with him. I would actually be afraid of him the first few nights. I remember thinking his eyes were very scary. Almost like an alien. When I looked into his eyes I always felt like something or someone was standing behind me. It was very weird, eery. After week one of both grandmas being there to help, I found that I couldn't sleep. I would dream they were dropping him or neglecting him. So mommy mode kicked in and by week 3 I was in love.
I'm excited about baby#2, but not as excited as with my 1st. But I'm sure that I will love her just as much as I love my son!I have zero worries. Hopefully you get to feeling the same way soon enough.