strange pain...

[Mommy2B51209]

Well, this may be a little bit personal, but after all, it is a health forum... so sex lately doesn't feel good at all, actually, it is slightly painful almost like he's bumping something in there... also this morning, when I was getting around for the day, I was having a crampy feeling really really low on my left side almost like it was in my groin area, and I could relate it most closely to when you are on your period and sometimes your muscles around your vagina opening ache... my husband and I prayed about it, and it went away really quickly, so I don't think it's much to worry about, but I just wondered if anyone else ever felt that type of pain??

[Mommy2B51209]

Thanks ladies... it helps to know that others are feeling the same as I am... guess as long as hubby is taking good care of us and we are taking good care of him, our bodies will just do what they are supposed to do... Thanks again.  : )

[Joyce49788]

agree....what's sex??? lol

i think bf is afraid of hurting me or baby cause i think we have only had sex 3 times since i found out i was pregnant.... and i am 26 weeks now.... that is alot of lost nookie...ugh

hopefully if i can tolerate the no sex without KILLING him....things will get back to normal soon. also my irratic and horrible mood swings probably doesnt help or the fact that the last time we did anything...baby kicked him and it kinda freaked him out....lol

[kylesMom09]

I've been having the same pains lately too, but my dr. said it is completely normal as long as i'm not bleeding.
As for sex i think we are just at that point that its getting less and less enjoyable... one position that i have found that isn't as painful as the rest is one where basically when you are "spooning".  Sorry I don't have any real answeres for you, but we just have to stay positive about it all and remember that we are getting so close to the end!!!

[tarrah87]

i agree with you krushing....haha what sex?

[krushing]

What is sex???  I'm jealous, it seems like FOREVER ago DH and I had any kind of intimate relationship.  He's so scared he's going to hurt me and doggie style was the only position that worked with the belly and the position he needed, but then that old quick!  So, sorry, I don't have a solution.  Just, that it's normal and we'll be back to normal in no time!

As for the pains...got them too!  

[hkenny]

I too am having a hard time with sex, its just not comfortable no matter what we have tried! Hubby has been really good about it though. I feel like a bad wife and he disagress he says he can wait so that we can enjoy it together.

i have weird pains here and there too, my dr sid as long as there is no bleeding or contractions they are fine. my pelvic bone really really hurts and she said its the body getting ready to "open" for labour. Yippee!!

so i guess i dont have a solution either, jus that i can relate!!

[njrohe]

I would say that any crampy feeling is normal as long as they are not contractions!!!  I have had cramps in my groin, hips, back, legs, etc.

I also have experienced uncomfortable and even somewhat painful sex this pregnancy.  I don't remember that with my first pregnancy.  Most positions just don't work at all -- even missionary because he leans too hard on my belly to get the leverage he needs, and I don't have the endurance to be on top.  The one position we seem to have success with is "doggie style," but that hurts!!!  Like you said, it's like he's bumping something tender in there!  I don't know what the solution is!

I have been willing but have asked hubby to stick with quickies for my sake until the pregnancy is over.  I think he feels badly about hurting me because he hasn't initiated sex in over a month, but we have been discussing that we need to work on this.  Anyway, I can't offer any solution, but just to say I know how you feel!

I love that you and hubby pray together.  I am encouraged by that and it will keep you strong as you work through these sexual issues.