the 3rd trimester crank forum, please complain all you want!!

[hkenny]

Well here it is ladies, I figured with our last few posts we need this!!

I'll start, I cant sleep, I dribble pee when I sneeze of cough,I feel like  the side of a house which makes everyday things unpleasant. I cant seem to have sex as it is uncomfortable and my dh informed me this morning that my downstairs has changed.......not sure what that ment but with being sooooooo hormonal it pissed me off. I cant walk around for more than half an hour b/c my back hurts soooo much and my feet and legs swell up like balloons. I can no longer wear my wedding rings, I cry over stretch marks when I know there is nothing I can do about them, I have tried every belly cream on earth and known of them make a bit of difference. The smallest things irraate the **** out of me......for example my husband playing guartar hero right now, if only I had a gun...............

[Joyce49788]

bump....am 32 weeks now...wow has it been that long since i was on here...oh boy...lmao

[Joyce49788]

cyrena... i never did get to cleaning and rearranging things in the kitchen... but oh well. hopefully in time. my kitchen isnt very big so not alot that i can do anyhow.  2 nights ago i finally broke down and cried for about 2 hours.. woke up next day feeling like crud.. eyes felt gritty and had a slight headache, and felt sooo exhausted. i think maybe that even though it wasnt the best situation, that maybe i'm used to him being here and maybe i kinda miss him a little... ugh i have to do some tough love on myself and keep myself from contacting him if at all possible. it if a funny coinsidence that the week before we decided he should leave.... my unemployment ended, we lost dsl and long distance(because he didnt pay his bill) and i started differant programs for the kids... hmmm such a coincidence that only source of income from the last year is now gone, and NOW he decides to leave...lol

anyhow on to pregnancy related stuff....lol.... i am 29 weeks now... not much time now. and symptoms are continuing to worsten or at least continuing to BE here.. still cant stand or walk for long without back,hips and belly hurting real bad.. and now i cant sit,stand or walk without the tops of my thighs(especially left side) feeling like they are falling asleep with the tingly pins and needles feeling... i would rather be having severe morning sickness than not being able to do anything cause my legs dont want to work right. i also have this weird sore spot on my belly(just to the right of belly button) that actually starts to HURT in early-mid afternoon and continues on until i go to bed... i am worried it could be a umbilical hernia...BUT i dont see or feel anything poking out of it.  so my best guess would be that baby is laying transverse(sideways) and is just all arms and legs poking everywhere and putting pressure with either her head or butt in that spot. the main reason i am thinking that she is sideways is because i will feel kicks real low like hip/pubic area... and then i will feel them near my ribs....on the sides of my belly. it is really weird.

anyhow i will stop complaining for now, as i am sure i will have more to rant about in a few days....if not a few hours...lmao

[Cyrena]

That sounds like a great way to help you get passed this a little quicker.  Don't forget it's okay and healthy to cry though!  You have to let it out somehow.  If your kids are home, just go in the bathroom for a minute and let it out in there.

[Joyce49788]

thanks for the vote of confidence... i think i am starting to feel better.. last night kids and i rearranged the living room... something HE never wanted done. and it looks sooo much more like us than it has in a long time. i am planning on doing the kitchen today (not that there is much to rearrange...but) and although i still want to cry alot... i dont. and i am feeling a little better.

[Cyrena]

I think you've made the right decision and I commend you for having the courage to make such a hard decision specially at this point.  That shows you that you care for your children enough to seperate yourself from a potentially horrible situation when many women out there would not be strong enough to be alone.  I hope you start feeling better soon!

[Joyce49788]

thanks tarrah....
well there is a saying i have heard on a movie(Dolores Claiborne).... "sometimes being a B I T C H is all a woman has to hold onto".... and there are soooo many times in life that i have found that to be true. and although i am still having a somewhat hard time with the fact that i finally put my foot down..(i may have to do a lil counseling over this) i do know it was for the best. i am so glad i have you ladies to vent to and talk to even about things like this. hope all is well with everyone and i will be off until tomorrow.

hugs and luv

[tarrah87]

i would def say its normal to feel like c r a p but i think you made the right decision if he's that bad tempered now i think a screaming baby would just put him over the edge, and he has no job... so i say good job, and it sounds like it was a good decision.

[Joyce49788]

ok so here is my vent for the day....  as some know i have been having issues with my bf for some time now... well friday after he got into my face and started to YELL at me... and then called me a B I T C H.... i said enough is enough. so we decided that monday (today) it was done. because there was no place for him to go before that. soooo i just got back from taking him to the bus station.

i once again made a huge mistake on my choice of men. i felt he constantly disrespected me and my daughter... i think he was jealous of my relationship with her.. and once i got pregnant it seemed like it was even worst. he wouldnt find a mediocre job...he wanted to be a computer programmer/web developer/ect.... well in the area we are in there is just no demand for that... and at least even working at mcdonalds would have paid the bills a little anyhow. but nooooo i have been supporting him for the last 13 months. even buying his cigarettes and such. and then he tells me that he wants to come back after i have this baby and take her with him... and he doesnt see a problem with that... well THAT is not going to happen. he hasnt worked in 3 yrs, he has a bad temper that has caused him to throw things at my 14 yr old daughter... from empty boxes, to french fries and coffee cups... the coffee cup had ended up hitting her and cutting her lip open...therefore now CPS is in the mix... ugh. so since CPS is in the mix i doubt i would have a problem getting 1) a restraining order and 2) lack of any form of visitation aside from supervised.

anyhow sorry for the long vent... and even though i know that having him leave is for the best for every one....i still feel like C R A P.... would you say that this is normal???

hugs and luv to you all

[Joyce49788]

went to doc yesterday...baby girls heartrate was 146... and am measuring right on track. did glucose test and so far havent heard anything back, so gonna assume all is fine.

am hoping that we get this thread moving again... there must not be too many complaints lately...lol... i am still dealing with some major mood swings and i hate it. it makes me feel completely useless and such.

i got my crib set yesterday and although it was missing a piece and also the mobile broke(but i super glued it)it is soooo much prettier than it was in the pictures...lol... am anxious to get it washed and on my crib. will hopefully be able to take pics after i have it put together...lol
the only piece that was missing(she is shipping it out Monday)is the diaper stacker...so it really isnt a big deal i guess...lol
i am also waiting on a sleep positioner, and dual reciever baby monitor... thinking that during naps anyhow...especially since i am concerned about the cat... it will be a good thing (gonna shut door during naps when she is not with me).
bf is still fighting me on it (cat) although he has moved the food,water and litter box to the basement so hopefully compromising for putting cat downstairs at night so that the cat can not get into baby stuff.... i keep my bedroom door open at night... so i can hear other kids moving around. i have heard that cats done like lavender or tea tree scents so am thinking of getting some extracts and putting in water bottle and spraying the area with the scent hoping to keep cat out of room entirely.
oh well still have 12 weeks before i have to worry about it...lol
can not believe that it is going by sooo fast...lol...hope to keep up with everyone soon... will be on dial up for next month so may not be able to update much....ugh

[Joyce49788]

tarrah... i hope they can take care of that tooth soon... they may have to give you another round of antibiotics to get rid of any infection.. but they CAN pull it while you are pregnant. i recently had a eyetooth(canine) pulled... all they really suggest is that you are past first trimester so that the meds and stuff doesnt effect baby much.  and if you have never had a tooth pulled while preggo.... it is a experience...lol... my lil girl wouldnt move for about 2 hours afterwards... i think she was just floating on "air" and was enjoying the "funny feelings".... all babies are differant though. so who knows.

well i am not sure what is going on, yesterday i was "resting" quite a bit because when i did ANYTHING it felt like my belly was getting tight, and NOT painful but uncomfortable....and my back was hurting alot too.  in the back of my mind i was thinking that it was early labor... because i was also really restless, but resting and then a warm bath helped... so i am assuming if it was anything it was BH....  and baby was really restless yesterday too... constantly moving, pushing and turning.. i dont think a hour went by that she wasnt moving SOMEWHERE... not really complaining because at least i know she was moving and was ok.... but it was weird.  also the tightening and stuff was wayy up and not necessarily the entire belly... could it have just been baby sitting real high and making it uncomfortable??? and this morning... i turned to lay on my back for just a minute(head and shoulders elevated on several pillows) i couldnt put my legs down flat without my belly hurting... and if i pressed down on my belly a little it hurt really bad. sitting up i am fine... but that was just weird.  i have a OB appt on wednesday and i am hoping i remember to mention this stuff to her... will have to jot it down and remind myself to tell her about it.... anyhow that is it for now (I THINK)...lol
hopefully everyone's showers go well and so glad that your shower went wonderfully kiki... anyhow will check in later on... hugs and luv

[tarrah87]

today has just not been my day, i've been a lil off today at work, sick to my stomach a few times today, my abcess tooth is back, can't get back to dentist until tuesday, the first time they told me they could not do anything until infection is gone, so once that was gone i set up another appt it got canceled due to snowy and i'm just getting around to getting another appt made, and i am aggrivated bc i've had ppl tell me there is nothing they can do while i'm pregnant so i'll probably just get more antibiotics...errrrrrr and i am working on only 4 hrs of sleep. i can't eat anything with my mouth this sore and can barely talk, i bit down on my bad tooth today and it ended up gushing blood, i was so P-issed it hurt like H-ell but i think it releaved some of the pressure, i just want this freaking tooth OUT! ok i'm done for today lol

[hkenny]

i guess i am not mad about this, but find it interesting. I had posted a while ago that i wasnt sure who to invite to my shower, some people i have to invite simply b/c they are very close with people i wanted to invite. the funny thing is all those people i wasnt sure about are not coming! which really is a blessing. I now know without a doubt that we are not very good freinds and i should never feel obligated again! i think its fantastic!! do i sound like a b i t ch? There are a few people i am upset about like i mentioned before but i know them well enough to know that our friendship is solid.

[Joyce49788]

i am sooo tired of playing referee to men and children..... why is it that when i am stressed, it seems like everyone around me is adding to the stress? it gets very tiring at times.
today i am 27 weeks...wow time is just flying....am i in the 3rd trimester yet or is that in another week??? lmao  some sites say 27 weeks, some say 28.... i dont know....lol

anyhow that is my complaining for the moment.  i would love to have a day to myself where i can relax and enjoy some peace and quiet...maybe a massage. but i can not trust leaving kids with bf because i dont know if one or another will be hurt or dead by the time i get back, as they seem to LOVE to fight and argue and if i am not here to play referee...then who knows what could happen....lol

[Joyce49788]

hkenny....i have even had a parenting "expert" that we are working with because of the bs with cps to begin with....who said that she commends us for taking on the extra responsibility of homeschooling and such. that instead of "taking the easy way" which is continueing with a inept public school...........we are doing what we feel is best for the children.

ok i finally bought my crib set.... http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&ssPageName=STRK:MEWNX:IT&item=360134913058
it isnt EXACTLY what i was wanting BUT it DOES have everything that i want to be included with it.  what do you all think?

what is the opinion about those infant sleep positioners? are they really all they are cracked up to be?  my older 2 kids both slept on thier bellies which is how they preferred to sleep...if i laid them on thier back, they would wake up and it would make for a long night. my youngest slept on his back in the bassinet til he was nearly 4 months old....so idk.

[hkenny]

i love this forum!! lol

kiki- i agree with you about the car, its hard for me sometimes too b/c i dont work. ( well i do but i work at home, my hubby owns his own company so i do his paperwork) we moved closer to his job which made me quit mine b/c of the drive, and rather than him pay someone to do the paperwork i do it, not gonna lie its not hard and its really only the last week of the month that i work.........but its annoying b/c when he wants to buy somtething large he says dont i always provide? yes but thats not the point!!! i got in sh*t for the nursery furniture b/c i spent alot, yes i will admit i did but we can afford it so whatever!  and i bought stuff she will have for YEARS< the crib converts to a toddler bed and a double bed. plus he decided to buy a way more $$ stroller than i ever intended
( double) so yes i understand your frustration!!  sometimes it seems like we can spend the money on things he thinks are important but if i want it then no way.

joyce- those people sound like a holes!! i would be mad too, where do they get off telling you you have to put the kids back into school? like you said its been 2 weeks!!

[Joyce49788]

well i understand where both of you are coming from.....selfishness seems to be a side effect of pregnancy....or at least men think it is being selfish most of the time...lol

my big vent is that about a month or so ago i got a visit from CPS(child protective services) because my daughter who accidently got hit by a object that was thrown in anger (NOT by me....but it was not INTENDED to hit anyone) caused a cut and scar above her lip. and now since i pulled kids out of school because of the school not doing what they should for my kids....and i am now homeschooling... the CPS worker calls yesterday and tells me (not in exact words but this is how i interpretted her meaning) if i dont return kids to public school then she will do what she can to remove kids from my home....WTF. well i called her supervisor and was told that from what she can see in the initial report, that they were not even contimplating removing the children. and when i told the supervisor that i have only been homeschooling for less than 2 weeks and havent been given the opportunity to see if i can successfully homeschool or not, and that through the next few months and the summer, i will THEN know whether or not i can successfully homeschool by fall.  but for this woman (cps worker, NOT the supervisor) that because i am pregnant that i can not handle the stress of having the kids around all the time and that i need a break.....was highly inappropriate comments and very unprofessional. i reminded her that homeschooling is legal in all 50 states and just because my kids have IEP's does not mean that i can not meet the requirements for homeschooling.  my 14 yr old daughter was failing 7th grade algebra because when i did her math assessment...she was only doing a 4/5 grade math....so tell me that the school was doing for her what they were suppose to be doing....lol
anyhow i felt much better after talking to the supervisor. it isnt right for state organizations to think they have the right to pressure or threaten someone to do something that they dont feel is "the right thing" i think what it is, is that cps workers will go into public schools and talk to kids WITHOUT the parents there, or WITHOUT the parents permission. and that is ILLEGAL. they are NOT suppose to do that. so that is why i think cps does not like homeschooling families, because they can not manipulate the children away from the family.

ok this is just based on MICHIGAN CPS, and i think i am done venting....what do you guys think? sorry for going on and on.....

[kikicoates78]

hkenny~ We are allowed to be selfish right now ;)

Dh is mad at me b/c I asked him not to spend $7000 on his Camaro (that is his baby), I didn't say he couldn't I just asked him to wait a few months... ARE you freaking kidding me we are gonna have a baby in 6 weeks!!!! I'm not going back to work for at least 3 months maybe 4!!! Any ways he has been restoring this car, it's his expensive toy I call it, It's a 67 RS, I get it, I know how much he enjoys it but I'm scared to death over money! He says "don't I always take care of things" " just let me do what I do" WTF?? NO!!!! The reason I asked him to wait is b/c he has no time to do the work right now anyways! He won't be able to touch it for anothe 3 or 4 months, so just freaking wait! What sealed the deal was that he wanted to buy new tires that were way too much money anyways that he has to put on the wheels he ordered last summer (still in the box by the way!) But when he put the tires on they won't fit back in the box, so he informed me he was gonna bring them in the house and store them in our upstairs den....UM NO!!! The D A M N motor isn't even together why in the helllll do you need wheels and tires! GGGRRR... He is being a total baby about me "telling him NO" (he says)
So maybe I'm being selfish too.....he does work very hard to provide for us, and I want him to get the car finished but I don't want financial stress on top of new baby stress.... WOW that turned into a long vent! LOL

[hkenny]

so i am having one of those days, feeling sorry for myself. found out today my granny is not coming to my baby shower, i just assumed she would but since she was diagnosed with alziemers a month ago she is no longer aloud to drive, my aunte would take her but its her nephews birthday that day so her and her hubby will be going to her brother in laws after my shower. my granda is a pastor and spends saturday doing his sermon so he cant drive her. then i found out a good freind of mine cant come b/c its her nephew birthday as well! again someone i just thought would come. i am upset but i know i am being selfish, i guess i just feel like your nephew will have lots of birthdays i will have my shower once........yep i am being selfish. i just wanted to vent!! thanks ladies.

[Joyce49788]

jamie....with this baby i have been getting everything i need/want myself...because i wasnt looking for a shower, i dont know many ppl here (until i started going to the homeschool group) and my sister and her family is over a hour drive from here. and really there isnt many ppl to go anyhow due to economy.

if i were to NOT buy anything more, i think i would be about ready, even though i dont have my bedding set yet. i DO have 1 crib sheet and some blankets so she would be taken care of even if i dont get a complete set. oh well....i KNOW i am stressing over some things that really dont matter that much...but i cant help it.... i have never been diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder but times like this i swear i have it...lol

[Jamie21]

joyce- it was nice to have my shower early, because it was my first baby, and I Was having twins to boot  so I Really didn't know what I Was doing. But, I think I Had 27 people show up and had tons of stuff to start me off with.

[Joyce49788]

kiki....oh no, i can not imagine what you are feeling or going through. the only thought i have is to NOT put them at the placemarks, and use them as "door prizes" for games that are rigged for your "friends" to win...lmao  anyhow i dont know what else to say or think unless you pick up a few things from Dollar tree to fill the extra spots and just hope that they go to the ones that dont care...lol just a suggestion.  i am hoping that i can get in touch with the woman who offered to do my shower.... i am always soo tired, havent even been able to call my dad too much lately.  he doesnt even know that i am expecting again, i have been afraid of his reaction. i KNOW i have to tell him soon, otherwise it will be a little awkward when he comes to visit again.  I am in Michigan and he is in Wisconsin....we dont see each other more than 2-3 times a year and usually talk about 2-3 times every month or so.

anyhow i hope things work out for you kiki and you have a blast at your shower regardless of the MIL's mess up.

[kikicoates78]

hkenny~ Let them hav it one good time, they will back of. That's what I ended up having to do. I have focused most of my frustration on my MIL, which we have usually gotten along well, but she us really just on my nerves right now, she has simmered down a little and has given me my space.

My shower dilema ~ Ok this is a sower for baby / me right??? Well my best freind is hosting along with my MIL. WHY do I have ALLL of my MIL freinds coming! She says the more the better, well not in my eyes! I want to be able to enjoy everyone that is there, It's not about gifts...Lord knows I have everything she needs! LOL I wanted a nice sit down dinner, which I'm having but I wanted it more intiment like 15 guests, our RSVP is already up to 40 WTF??? I don't know that many people! I hand made Thank You gifts for everyone, I'm a nerd like that, :) but I only made 30 thinking I made WAY more than I needed, I don't have time to make more, nor the energy to, the shower is Sat. the 7th!  So how tacky will it be when there isn't a thank you gift at someones place setting, and the unfair part the people who don't even really know ME or CARE for that matter will probly take them, and the people they might mean somthing to will be SOL! GGRRR.... OH well it's too late now, I just wish I would have inquired more about the guest list.


But other than that I'm feeling pretty good! LOL

[Joyce49788]

hkenny....i agree with mandy....talk to your dad and if he wont do something than just ignore it.... i didnt think about your step mom possibly being JEALOUS...what a concept.

jamie...from what i am understanding the ladies in my homeschooling support group is suppose to throw me a shower sometime in May.... i am not sure when or what theme or anything it is.... or even if i will be included in anything other than knowing the date which at the moment i dont...lol
with my youngest son(only shower out of 3 kids) i had the shower ON his due date which was 10 days after he was born...it gave me a few days to recooperate after a c-section AND it was special cause his due date was also my mom's bday. lol so we did a baby shower/bday type of thing. it was really cool.

anyhow i must be in a rambling type of mood today cause i am just going on and on....lol
hope all is going well, and i really wish i could stand for more than a few minutes without my legs feeling like they are going to sleep (tingly/pins and needles type of feeling) ugh

[mandy38]

Sounds like there's a lot of jealousy going on from them.  I've pretty much put up with rubbish like that all my life and you just need to let it go, otherwise negative energy like that will eat you up!  Have a word with your dad and tell him how you feel, otherwise ignore them. You know you've got a loving safe environment waiting for your baby!