feeling like a bad friend

[maritza8884]

My sister in law just told us that she's pregnant and instead of me been happy for her I'm mad sad not sure. I'm 30 weeks pregnant and I guess I just want my family to have attention for me and my baby. The first time I was pregnant my mom was pregnant with me and also my sister in law as well.  I don't like sharing the attention maybe I'm a bad person but that's how I feel. Please NO RUDE comments.  I know it's a special moment but it seems I always have to share it with someone. My mom wasn't able to be a grandma because she was not done been a mom. I know it feels petty but it is what it is. Is it wrong to feel like I do.

[Meg_Zee]

Your baby will be arriving long before your sister. There will still be attention on you since you two are at very different stages of pregnancy. My brother in law and sister in law got married 4 months ahead of my husband and I. Once there wedding was over, all the attention switched to ours, plus I was the only one getting married in my family. They also had a baby in December, 6 months before my baby is due. All the attention is back on me now that their daughter is already born and ours is still coming. I'm also so thrilled that my daughter is going to have a cousin the same age as her.

[jbenson112010]

I know how your feeling, I'm 33wks and my little sister is 13wks along. There's like 6 other girls at my job pregnant, as well as 6 other girls pregnant that I personally know. Kinda takes some of the feelings out of yours

[emmahackles14]

I know exactly how you feel. When I was 20 weeks my sister in law announced that she was pregnant with her third baby (this is my second). Every time shakes a pregnancy announcement they go crazy over it. Like when I announced that I was having a boy (at 23 weeks) my in laws were like "okay that's nice" but when she had announced that she was having a girl the following month or two they were thrilled and were talking about it for weeks posting it on Facebook about how proud they were and how they couldn't wait. I understand girl. No bashing here!

[diela]

My sister in law is pregnant and my cousin is too. I personally don't mind. The more the merrier I think. The only thing is I am having my 3rd boy and my sis in law MAY have a girl which will be the first grand daughter for my parents after 5 boys. So that will make me a little sad I guess cause I was so sure that would be me with the family first granddaughter. I guess it wasn't meant to be.

[CheyenneDayle1234567890]

I also feel the same way except its the other way around my sil was pregnant before me but my family spends so much time with her now.. and i am happy she had her baby last weekend but feel as tho i dont see my family we both live over 2 hrs from my parents and they go see her all the time and ive seen my parents once since being pregnant makes me sad and causes me alot of stress cause my mom or sil always post on fb about there visits..

[traciv]

When I was pregnant with my daughter I had 27 other friends and family member pregnant at the same time. It was awesome like we had our own little community. We could compare notes on what was happening, share birth stories and support each other. It seems many of us are spacing our pregnancies out the same now too. Now there are 14 of us pregnant and we are swapping baby clothes and going on this adventure together again lol

[erinmbiggs]

I know exactly what you're going through.  I am a little over 30 weeks pregnant now. And my sister in law has stole the whole show because she wants to be pregnant and cant be....  We found out in sept that we were expecting. And since then she has made it a point to show me and announce exactly how many times they are having sex and that theyre trying.  I just cant handle it.  And then they wanted me to have a boy so bad so she could have the girl. Welll i am having a girl and that has made things weird. Its alll strange. And seems like they had this fairy tale plan and it isnt working for her.  So she needs to butt into my time

[jasminelove89]

Omg i feel the same. Exact same. Im 30 weeks and my brothers gf announced shecwas this week.. when my mom is in town.i actually was like whatever. Because for once the attention was on me... now i feel robbed and i only have ten weeks left

[tiffanya2015]

I know how you feel. My cousin got pregnant a couple months after me and she LOVES attention so I feel like she tries to out due me with everything, the pregnancy reveal, gender reveal, baby shower, just everything. Our two kids will be the first great grandchildren as well as great great grandchildren in our family so I kind of wanted the attention on me from my entire family. It's nice to have somebody to go through it with, but it kind of ***** at the same time

[maritza8884]

Thank you ladies for all the support. Will try to make the best of everything. Wish you all the best with your pregnancy. Once again thank you Taili.

[Amina4ae]

I wish my sister, sister in law or even friend would get PREGO before or after me, then the kids have playmates to be raised with! All of my children(4) have birthdays in the popular months (May, August, & July) with their cousins but their years apart...

You're not at all selfish but try to look past the coincidence that others happen to be due the same time. You could always think they want to be like you! Lol

[Mrscofmn]

Totally get what you're feeling.  Happened to me for my wedding, first pregnancy,  you name it...  Just look at it this way there are some things you can control and some that cannot be controlled.  Now if it happens to your little one when it's time for a first birthday... pitch a fit and put your foot down.  That's the one thing I wish I could do over.  :-).

Stay strong we'll be here for support.

[Taili2010]

Your welcome and you know the hormones can make you emotional, crazy, angry for no good reason. Its completely normal in pregnancy. To be honest if i was in your position id think something of it to. And id probably even say something completely irrarional of i was to find out she was having a baby of the same gender as me as if she did it intentionally even though we all know damn well you cant create the babys gender yourself. Its normal to think that way. And i know it is hard to not have that dissapointment or negativity built up towards the situation. Just remind yourself that its a done deal and being mad, jealous, sad or dissapointed over it wont change things and most definitely wont help things. But keeping positive about it as much as u can make yourself will at least make it less stressful on you and you can enjoy your own pregnancy more !

[Queeny01]

I get it..just want all of the love.
I have at least 5 people pregnant with me.So I get it.

[maritza8884]

Thank you so much Tailia for your comment. I'm really trying to  look at it in a positive way but a little hard. I've had a high risk pregnancy because of previous miscarriage and then she tells me she's high risk too not sure what to think. I think I'm just been a little crazy.

[Taili2010]

I Don't think It's wrong to feel The way You do But I do think It would be best For You and your family If You were to try to Just ignore That sucky feeling and be excited to not only have Ur baby But Also a new niece Or nephew to love! When I was pregnant with my first daughter my aunt was pregnant too. I felt the way You feel now, Especially Because I got pregnant At 16 and She was almost in her 40s and on her fourth child. I wanted my family to give me All The support, and be excited For my daughter to come. I didn't want to have to share The love and support with my aunt and cousin. But It turned out That my family and friends were still supportive and loving,  still spoiled my girl, still attended The baby shower,  and asked questions and were always very involved in my pregnancy.  Now I'm pregnant with my second daughter and I was pregnant with 2 of my best friends girlfriends, my fiances older brothers girlfriend Who Is due April , and his younger brothers gf who just had her son last week. I feel like everyone i know is pregnant so its not even a special and exciting moment anymore. But even though my fiance isnt the bio dad of my daughter his family is so welcoming and they call my girls their neices and are just as excited for her arrival as they are for the two biological nephews. I call his nephews my nephews and i am so excited about having them. Everytime we go shopping for our baby we do shopping for the boys as well. Its like we are having triplets! But i love my nephews so much and it was actually really awesome and encouraging to have my two sister in laws going through pregnancy with me. Our babies get to be so close so we are planning cute pictures and family trips. Its nice having someone close to you to share complaining about symptoms or comparing experiences with someone who understands... try looking at the positive side instead of the negative and remember that no matter what its your baby and will always be your special moment.