Not telling certain people

[iseverynametaken]

I almost feel bad. I haven't spoken to my mother in 8 years. She hasn't seen my daughter since she was 1 and she's never met my son. She knows of him though. But no one has told her about this pregnancy. She walked out on our family and the things that she did I just couldn't forgive. My father passed 4 years ago and I feel like I have no family. I don't want her in my life but I feel like maybe she should know about her grandchild.

[iseverynametaken]

I don't even know where she is. I don't think anyone does. She's bipolar and doesn't stay in one place for long. And she can't keep friends or family in her life. Its sad but people just get sick of her games and move on. It must be a sad life to have no one because you play games with their heads. She refuses medication unless it gets her high and makes me really not want her around my kids. They don't know what drugs are. Maybe I'm selfish but I don't want them to feel the pain my sister and I did.

[JayDub18]

That's a hard one. Maybe send her a Christmas card with a picture of your kids, just saying merry Christmas and letting her know there will soon be a new addition to the family. That way you don't have to get too close to her if you don't feel like it, since christmas is a common time for outreaches like this, and she'll get the news.