I was beginning to throw my own shower and then I was told the shower is supposed to be thrown FOR me. So I just handed over what I had to my sister and friends and they are taking care of it. I'm glad I did my own invites though because I don't know if everyone I want would have gotten them otherwise.
My sister in law is throwing my shower. I have asked if there was anything she needs me to get and I am always told no. She did "let" me address the envelopes and mail invitations.
You can offer to help and see what she says.
My mom did everything.
Food
Decorations
Invites
I did help with set up tho. You can ask her if there's anything she wants u to help with.