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Baby shower becoming more of a headache !!!

Soooo my family and friends are throwing me a baby shower because I refused to throw my own due to the stress and cost of having one. Here's the problem everything is still being left up to me to decide such as menu,decor,favor,cake etc...  Now i did agree to ordering the invites which since i wanted to keep things simple was for 50 people. Which my MIL has busted that count already.I'm constantly getting calls about what they should do and if I want certain things or not and not to mention that we're having it at my MIL house, which we don't get alone very well anyway. She's trying to make it something other than what I wanted which is a very casual inexpensive co-ed shower! More like a baby celebration excluding all of the typical shower games. She's even gone as far as to invite people who have never met me or my husband!I'm starting to feel like not even showing up and just calling the whole thing off. Am I just being ungrateful??
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No I certainly think you have a right to be annoyed . It's YOUR baby shower and should be how you want it to be . And she should respect that. My mom also made my shower how she wanted it when it came to the guest list and at one point I wanted to call it off too. Considering its my baby and my shower My opinion and feelings should be considered . Especially in the guest list. She wanted to invite her friends which I think is ridiculous . I would tell her how you feel . Sometimes you have to really voice your opinion or you'll get run all over . That's how it is for me anyways . I'm sure your shower will be great and it'll all work out! Good luck  
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Thanks. I was starting to think that maybe I was losing it. I did tell her how I felt let's just say she didn't take it so well but at this point I really don't care. I have my aunt helping plan the shower now and she has my best interest at heart. This pregnancy has been so stressful and touch and go you would think that she would just be happy that we have made it this far and that my baby girl is okay. My his told me not to worry things will be fine his mom is just an attention hog but I'm sick of it and her quite frankly. Lol
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Well usually you don't throw your own. My mom invited people who I didn't know with my first. It's really not that bad. More baby gifts.lol it's not like you'll have to have a full on conversation with them. I say be greatful that people are trying to do things for you cause some mom's on here don't even get the choice to have one cause they don't have much family.  One day isn't going to kill you.
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