I lost my baby at 9 weeks.

[BrittanyBrown14]

Yesterday I went to the E.R because I was experiencing light bleeding. I was going to wait & see if it was going to stop but my sister who is 4 months pregnant suggested that I go to the E.R because she only spotted for a day & it was going on day 2 for me. So I went to the doctor & got my blood drawn & also got a transvaginal sonogram. The results of the sonogram stated that the baby's heartbeat was no longer there & all they could see was a sac. I am currently miscarrying right now. I go to see my doctor today. I am very hurt inside & feel like my joy has been snatched away. I lost my baby at 9 weeks & 1 day this was my very first pregnancy. Me & my husband are trying to stay strong. For the women who's been thru this please send encouraging words I really need it & also how long did you wait till you decided to try again? My husband is suggesting we wait a year but part of me wants to walk on faith & try again within the next 2 months.

[azndoraemon]

I'm so sorry but I do believe that you/we can have a successful pregnancy.  I really think is best to wait for 5/6 months ttc again so that wait your body has time to heal.  I know dr recommend 3 months or first period but in my opinion is best to have a healthy/strong body to carry a baby also m/c can keep on happening once you had a m/c.  

For example: when you plant veggies - is best to dig out all the original dirt and put in new ones.  Once the bedding is healthy - the veggies will grow nicely and even will grow on it owns.  People always say i have a green thump but i pretty much just toss the seeds in the soil and it just take care of itself.  I hardly even fertilize/water them.  I get tomatoes every year even though I never planted them.  Being pregnant is the same - is best to prepare your body and don't rush.  Good luck to you all!  

[cate2273]

I feel your pain! I lost my first at 4.3 weeks, got pg 3 weeks later and lost that one also at 7.6 weeks. We were dissapointed the first time and devastated the second...and so were our families. I've cried for weeks already over my SILs unexpected pg when we'd been trying so hard and lost two...it doesn't seem fair! BUT I have been trying to accept God's will for our lives. We both (my sil and I) were dissapointed by our pg results but we know that God is faithful and we are learning to apply unselfishness and trust in God in our lives in a very real way!

[bella3101]

I miscarried with what would have been my third. Im 10 wks with what will hopefully be my fourth and im still effected by it and i still cry. Its normal to feel sad. All i can recommend is dont try to fight the sad. Cry when u need to but make sure u dont get stuck in it either. You will be ok. A different ok to what u were before but ok nonetheless.

[azndoraemon]

I'm so sorry.  I m/c at 6/7 weeks last Feb and it was my first too.  I was very strong but of course very sad.  For me, I was not that emotional b/c i was telling myself that i was lucky to m/c early rather than m/c when the baby has developed.  At least i didn't have to bury the body.  My co-worker m/c at 8 months and she had to go through funeral service.  

I would wait for at least 3 months to ttc so that way your uterus can recover fully.  I waited for about a year to try again b/c i wanted to take prenatal for awhile before ttc and i was taking chinese herbal tea (prescribed by specialist) to help build up my body.  I seriously got pregnant just with one try after i stop taking the herbs. I got preg this Feb and I am almost 12 weeks.    

[bondoh]

I'm am so sorry that you are going through this. Its very hard. We had 3 miscarriages, and hopefully this pregnancy goes well. But I will be nervous until I have a healthy and delivered baby.

The only advice I can offer is do not focus on the negative. I went through a deep depression and felt like a failure (the hubbys spermies are fine but I have Pcos)... sometimes motherhood feels like an exclusive club that you're not allowed to join. And miscarriages are hard to talk about.

Focus on the friends and family that surround you. They love you no matter what. They loved you before you started trying and will love you always.

In good news, a majority of women who have a miscarriage, go on to have a healthy happy baby on the second go.

Keep taking your prenatal and try again when you feel physically comfortable doing do.

[ksarahd]

I miscarried with my first pregnancy at 9 weeks also. I had to go to the ER and the whole time I just felt numb. I just felt so empty and distraught. I was so upset and at times angry with most every one. I could not grasp why some people who have no business having children or didn't want or appreciate the children that they had were able to have healthy beautiful babies. Then there was my husband and I eagerly hoping for a baby and it was snatched away from us. Time is the only thing that worked for me. No matter what anyone else said to me to encourage or uplift me mattered. Their words fell deaf on my ears. This happened last July and now I am 11 weeks pregnant with what seems a normal pregnancy. Honestly I was unable to be excited until I had passed the point of 9 weeks. Now that I am I feel very lucky and cautiously optimistic. So I guess my advice for you is to take your time and when you feel ready try for another baby. But you can't get pregnant again trying to heal the pain from this loss. You need to feel right in your own skin and your mind first.  That may only take 2 months or even less but try not to rush it and learn to enjoy life again even not being pregnant. Because if you think that the only thing that will make you happy again is getting pregnant you are going to put unneeded stress on your self emotionally and physically. Best of luck to you and your husband!

[kirstygroves1]

Im sorry about your loss hun. Both stay strong and both do it together and work threw it.being there twice before.
They say to wait at least 3 months before trying again xx