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Anyone having postpartum Depression prepartum?
I am getting induced 130am Thursday morning, October 1st. I am very anxious and I thought I was excited but this morning when I woke up its just complete depression and fifty questions going through my mind and I dont even know if I want to be pregnant anymore. I am tired of being big, I am afraid of still being big afterwards and the stretch marks cause I have always been somewhat small/average with a nice belly even after I had my first son. He is 5 and now I just want it to be him, me and daddy. I dont know if I want this new one now. I dont think I am ready for another baby. My five year old is in football right now and I love going to his practices and games. I dont want to have to miss anything because of the baby. I want to still be able to devote all my time to my son but at the same time am I really going to be a good mother to the new one. I have a hundred worries and really only two more full days to get it all straightened. I am scared crapless and I just don't know if I can do this. I dont want to have to share my time anymore than I already do. I know its selfish but are these just feelings. All of you that are 2nd and 3rd time mothers can you please help? Will these feelings go away? Please say yes cause I have bronchitis and me crying all day today has not helped any at all. What do I do?
Thank you everyone for your opinions, notes, and words of wisdom. I think I try to hold myself on a higher pedestal and want to much of myself as a person, mother, and wife and not everyone can be perfect. Today is a new day and I kept my son out of school so we could go to lunch together and we are going to play putt putt. Last time we wont have to worry about a baby at all. Thank you everyone and Congrats and good luck to you all as well.
I want to say to you that it's quite normal to be worried about bringing a new baby into the family when you already have a child who is used to having 100 % of mammy and daddy to see to him and his needs. It's guilt making you feel so lousy about this. I know because I too had a tremendous guilt towards my little boy (who was 4) when my second baby boy arrived. I found myself completely split in two for the first few months and this brought a big strain on me trying to be the best devoted mum to each of them that I could be. But I know now that I was too hard on myself being this way and that if I had stepped back and looked at myself I would have realised I was doing a great job. But you never feel that way at the time. When my youngest was 9 months and I stopped breast feeding I was diagnosed with post-natal depression and I ''survived'' 5 months with great difficulty. I didn't have any self-belief or an opinion of myself I really deserved. I just felt like I couldn't cope.
I do regret getting that ''illness'' but I think I brought it on myself feeling too guilty towards my first son, then too guilty towards the baby - both for the same reasons as the other - not having the time to give myself 100 % to them both and so feeling like I was failing as a mum.
I wish more people had told me I was doing a great job (I know now I was) and perhaps I would not have got so ill.
I am expecting my third and feeling great but it's probably knowing what I've been through and realising that feelings of guilt are natural and accepting them and moving on.
I think these are last minute nerves you're having when you realise your family is suddenly going to get bigger. But your son can be involved and enjoy having a new brother or sister, and it doesn't have to be a bad thing for him. It's worth remembering that. I don't think you will resent your baby when he or she arrives, but you may resent yourself for feeling negative about everything (like I did).
Keep telling your son how much fun the baby will be when he/ she is old enough to be playmates. Think of all the positives having another child will bring to your child and family.
That is why I am having my third, even after all I went through, I realise it's a wonderful thing having a bigger family.
Hope that helps.
I do regret getting that ''illness'' but I think I brought it on myself feeling too guilty towards my first son, then too guilty towards the baby - both for the same reasons as the other - not having the time to give myself 100 % to them both and so feeling like I was failing as a mum.
I wish more people had told me I was doing a great job (I know now I was) and perhaps I would not have got so ill.
I am expecting my third and feeling great but it's probably knowing what I've been through and realising that feelings of guilt are natural and accepting them and moving on.
I think these are last minute nerves you're having when you realise your family is suddenly going to get bigger. But your son can be involved and enjoy having a new brother or sister, and it doesn't have to be a bad thing for him. It's worth remembering that. I don't think you will resent your baby when he or she arrives, but you may resent yourself for feeling negative about everything (like I did).
Keep telling your son how much fun the baby will be when he/ she is old enough to be playmates. Think of all the positives having another child will bring to your child and family.
That is why I am having my third, even after all I went through, I realise it's a wonderful thing having a bigger family.
Hope that helps.
You are totally having a **** time and i wish I could give you a big hug and tell you its ok.
Talk to your hubby and ob about how your feeling. I am sure its normal - your hormones are raging you are about to have a c section and have a million things going through your mind and you have panicked! its ok you will be totally fine and when your new baby arrives you will be totally fine too but you do need to talk to someone and let those closest to you know how your feeling and if your feeling like this afterwards.
Good luck and you and your son will be doing exactly the same as before because you will organise it that way and before you know it you will be attending this baby's practice games etc.
take care
tivey
Talk to your hubby and ob about how your feeling. I am sure its normal - your hormones are raging you are about to have a c section and have a million things going through your mind and you have panicked! its ok you will be totally fine and when your new baby arrives you will be totally fine too but you do need to talk to someone and let those closest to you know how your feeling and if your feeling like this afterwards.
Good luck and you and your son will be doing exactly the same as before because you will organise it that way and before you know it you will be attending this baby's practice games etc.
take care
tivey
I haven't experienced it. I'm having my 3rd baby and I couldn't be happier. I wish she could be here in my arms now =) You should talk to your OB about what you are feeling. I have never had that. But I kinda imagine it's kinda like getting cold feet before a wedding. I'm sure it'll all go away once you hold your little one in your arms =) Best of luck to you.
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